"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ballroom Dancing or Swing Dancing?

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Which should I take up?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Learn swing first it opens the doors to other types of dance, and you can use swing at most dances and parties and have everyone awed. Take the ballroom later on. I'm sure it can't hurt to have both dancing skills.
 

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Personally, I'd consider any or several of the Latin dances. Not only can many of the movement be integrated into other dance styles, I have yet to meet a woman who didn't appreciate a man who could dance the Salsa!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What's the difference?
Which is more impressive, really, is what matters.

Latin dances, you say? Which?
 

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MrS said:
What's the difference?
Which is more impressive, really, is what matters.

Latin dances, you say? Which?
Salsa, Merengue, Cha Cha, Mambo, Samba, Rumba, Bolero, Mambo, Paso Doble, Tango, Milonga, the list goes on and on. For clubbing I suggest Salsa and Samba, for something sexy with a partner the Merengue and Tango. If you just want to show off, the Gato. Knowing more than one is definitely advantageous. :up:
 

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Where do you dance tango? OR even cha-cha for that matter?

Just learn salsa - it's the easiest or them all, and it's the only one that's actually danced.

You might as well know waltz and quckstep, but if you're not on a competition, you're never gonna apply it for picking up ladies.
 

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I've taken some Swing and I've been told by an instructor that Swing can be incorporated into Salsa.
 

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just learn salsa... it's usually offered as a full course anyways...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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david2006 said:
just learn salsa... it's usually offered as a full course anyways...
Nah, I wouldn't learn just the Salsa, everyone who knows Latin dance knows Salsa and nothing else. Don't want to be a one trick pony, mix it up a bit and really stand out.
 

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Latin Dances = Sexy as PHUCK.

The end. Plus, latinas = muy muy bella.
 
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