"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ballroom dancing classes kick ass

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If you're in college and they have some kind of sports/recreation class like a ballroom dancing class, I'd recommend taking it. The women out number the men about 3:1, and the women are so timid that even the really hot ones stare at the floor and nervously giggle the whole time. They stare at their feet and are afraid to look you in the eyes, and they giggle all the time. Its fun because I'm not nervous or afraid to be dancing with them, looking in their eyes or talking to them but they are the ones who are afraid, which is nice.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MidnightResistance

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If only I could go back to being 18 with what I know now
 

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Take the class through a college, as you said, and not through a private dance school - especially if you live in FL or AZ. My ex-wife went to one session once where no one was under 60.
 

Le Parisien

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I think it depends on the circumstances.

Being very interested in all kinds of dance, once I took a night salsa class when I was still in college (Penn State), it looked like almost only the really fat chicks who had no friends and who had nothing better to do after 6:00pm wanted to join that class.

Ok, maybe it's just my bad luck.

At the same time, it's true that some good looking girls/women join these classes, but it really depends on a lot of things.

And the most important thing: don't ever try to join a dance class/club if you are NOT interested in dancing and you just want to meet girls. People can tell that right away, and it's not very appreciated.
 

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Originally posted by Le Parisien
I think it depends on the circumstances.

Being very interested in all kinds of dance, once I took a night salsa class when I was still in college (Penn State), it looked like almost only the really fat chicks who had no friends and who had nothing better to do after 6:00pm wanted to join that class.

Ok, maybe it's just my bad luck.

At the same time, it's true that some good looking girls/women join these classes, but it really depends on a lot of things.

And the most important thing: don't ever try to join a dance class/club if you are NOT interested in dancing and you just want to meet girls. People can tell that right away, and it's not very appreciated.
Hahaha coming from an experience salsa dancer, what you say is pretty true. TBH all the hot girls don't have to take classes. They learn very quickly because all the guys ask them to dance all the time. Only the ones that don't dance often need these classes to help them get better. Also all the "hot" ones come fashionably late so give them an hour or two before the hit the club.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by MidnightResistance
If only I could go back to being 18 with what I know now
If only i could go back to being 6 with what i know now. Id be a millionare.

Ninja out
 
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