"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bah, my vent i guess.

Nivek

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So theres this girl that I like. Lets call her Mary. So we talk off and on from time to time, nothing real close but friendly. The prom is coming up so I asked her and she says yes. So now we're going to the prom together but things between us seem really awkward. We can be talking but it doesn't seem like a fun natural conversation. We're connecting on some stuff but it just feels weird. I think my lack of experience is a major factor to this. Maybe shes nervous and with my nervousness combined makes it 10x worse. So i dunno, I guess i want suggestion from the board. I know i'm AFC as hell right now, trying to get out of it but its damn hard. I'm a really shy guy. I guess at times i don't know what to say to a girl, yes i've read the posts about conversations and how one should always be asking questions to delve deeper into the girl. I do that but it doesn't seem really fun. Maybe to learn some c+f or something. Also what do you people talk about? i mean i can't talk about her all the time? like i like the shirt or so nice day (not like i say that but..) yeah. so yeah haha i'm probably gonna get a reply to tell me to read the dj bible again. I think i need to so i just might. But since i typed all of this i'll post it. Sry for my rambling at the end.

-Nivek (on his road to recovery)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dastal

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if shes nervous, C&F will make it worse. try the kino. its a lot easier than you think. Joke around a bit.
 

LikRetsam

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Blah blah blah.

You made a date for an approach. What are you supposed to do? Hold off all sexual contact until that date? Get to it.
 

Jerky Boi

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She's just as nervous as you are. That's the only reason why it doesn't feel natural. You need to open up a bit, use some kino, and make a connection.
 
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