BadNews
Senior Don Juan
Upon reading, and thoroughly enjoying, Bradd80's "A Journey to Don Juan Mastery" I have been inspired to record my own journey. The goal of this thread will be for my own insight and understanding; as well I hope there will be something that can be learned by you, the community.
I first came across the site last year after having my heart torn to pieces by a devil of a woman. We had been in a relationship for over 5 years when I found out she was cheating on me. I wallowed in self pity for a few, sad, months before deciding I needed to move on and create a life I would be happy with despite the actions of others. Enter SS.
Target's name: Carmen
Age when we began dating: We were both 18
Profession: Elementary School Teacher
Background: South African (milk chocolate like skin color)
Reason we broke up: Cheating *****!
What she looks like:
http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/39/95281815.jpg/
http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/99/27171141.jpg/
The end of our relationship was rocky, and in retrospect I'm not surprised she ended up cheating on me - though I would sooner end a long term relationship before I'd cheat on someone. To each our own.
What I learned from this relationship; which also happened to be my first serious relationship: Not to allow myself to become too codependent on the person I'm in a relationship with, as well as to not allow myself to get 'comfortable.' At the time I would have happily married Carmen, but that would have been a mistake. Looking back she just wasn't a good match for me. I REALLY leraned that I need to be in control of my own life and my own happiness, and that I cannot ever rely on someone else to fulfil me in those ways. I learned that I need to create and have a healthy relationship on my own, the person I'm with needs to do the same, and only then can we share our lives together in a fulfilling way.
When I first found the site I read, and read, and read some more. I quickly learned the 'rules of the game' that I had previously been oblivious to. This is not to say I became some kind of Don Juan over night; I am still far from it. I was however, able to quickly change my frame of mind and begin to implement some of what I had learned. I began approaching women, number closing, and even went on a few dates. Things were looking up, and I was feeling extremely optimistic about my future love life.
I first came across the site last year after having my heart torn to pieces by a devil of a woman. We had been in a relationship for over 5 years when I found out she was cheating on me. I wallowed in self pity for a few, sad, months before deciding I needed to move on and create a life I would be happy with despite the actions of others. Enter SS.
Target's name: Carmen
Age when we began dating: We were both 18
Profession: Elementary School Teacher
Background: South African (milk chocolate like skin color)
Reason we broke up: Cheating *****!
What she looks like:
http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/39/95281815.jpg/
http://imageshack.us/photo/my-images/99/27171141.jpg/
The end of our relationship was rocky, and in retrospect I'm not surprised she ended up cheating on me - though I would sooner end a long term relationship before I'd cheat on someone. To each our own.
What I learned from this relationship; which also happened to be my first serious relationship: Not to allow myself to become too codependent on the person I'm in a relationship with, as well as to not allow myself to get 'comfortable.' At the time I would have happily married Carmen, but that would have been a mistake. Looking back she just wasn't a good match for me. I REALLY leraned that I need to be in control of my own life and my own happiness, and that I cannot ever rely on someone else to fulfil me in those ways. I learned that I need to create and have a healthy relationship on my own, the person I'm with needs to do the same, and only then can we share our lives together in a fulfilling way.
When I first found the site I read, and read, and read some more. I quickly learned the 'rules of the game' that I had previously been oblivious to. This is not to say I became some kind of Don Juan over night; I am still far from it. I was however, able to quickly change my frame of mind and begin to implement some of what I had learned. I began approaching women, number closing, and even went on a few dates. Things were looking up, and I was feeling extremely optimistic about my future love life.
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