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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Packers2010

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Right now, I have really NOTICABLE bad posture and it is hurting my game. I really don’t know how to fix this. I’ve had this for a really long time and I haven’t done anything about it. Well it’s time to change. What could you recommend me to do to change such bad posture?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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by bad posture you mean like you walk looking at the ground or so?

if it is then just keep you head high and move looking.

one thing I did when in the army and I was using that cap witht eh uniform was pretty much to hide my eyes with it in such way I had to raise my head too look at anyone in the face.

other thing you can do too is walk with one hand or both at your back right in the mid of it.
 

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No, I think he means the classic "don't look at me" or the dude he sits a computer all day posture.

Forward head, shoulders rounded forward, kinda like the Hunch Back look.

OP there are a lot of variables but you need to stretch out the strong muscles and strengthen the weak ones.

Its a synergistic relationship, actually the proper term is length-tension. When one is out of whack the other will compensate.

Now identifying which ones are strong and which ones are weak is probably where you are going to struggle.

Without being able to see you, and if you DO spend a considerable amount of time in front of the computer and in bad posture throughout the day, I can tell you that your lats will be tight, your upper traps will be weak (not tight) as so many PT's always think and your lower traps will be weak as well.


Go on Youtube and look up Wall Lat Stretching. That will help you immensely. 1-2 sets of 15 reps.

Also your Pec Minor will be tight as hell, its the area between the outer part of your upper chest and the bottom part of the shoulder. Look into stretching this as well. 1-2 sets 15 reps

Also look into Face Pulls to strengthen your upper/mid/lower traps to keep those shoulders in place. 2 sets 15 reps

Chin tucks against the wall would also be a great idea to help that forward head. 1 set 20 reps

A lot of people sit with their head in forward posture, which is essentially shortening their neck and weaken the upper traps.

Instead elongate them by tucking your chin towards your adam's apple, that is the proper position for your head and gives humans the best range of vision possible.


Also in your everyday life think about the things you do and what position you sit in, stand in etc. Usually postural dysfunctions come about from the patient having bad habits without realizing it.

If you don't correct the dysfunction in your posture in everyday life, you will not improve even with the rehab exercises. There's 24 hours in a day, sitting/standing in bad posture for the majority of the day will outweigh 1 hour of rehab exercises.

As for shoulder position, keep your shoulders back at all times.

Your shoulders should look like a T when you look in the mirror. But most people have postural issues and weakness in their back so their shoulders look more like a roof top or an upside down V. Very common with weightlifters too because they are imbalanced and focus on lifting chest and biceps so much over their back.

Right now, I bet your probably leaning in towards the computer screen, rather than having your back completely against the chair.....

All very common things....


Hopefully this gives you a start, I would do the stretches and exercises 3x a week with a day of rest in between.









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thanks for the input pimp. my chest dose feel really tight all the time. i was think that might be my issue. thats for the stretches i will look them up on youtube now
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Lifting weights will fix any problems you have related to posture provided that you don't have some preexisting spinal condition, which you probably don't.
 

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like people said before, do deadlifts its great for lower back, but one thing people forget to do is work out their rear delts. If it isn't built up well it can give your shoulders a slack appearance as if your shoulders are falling forward.
 
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