"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was messaging with a hb6 very nice body 33 on okcupid a few weeks ago. I got her number and texted her. She didn't respond. Today I tried again and she did. Turns out she divorced because of domestic violence. Her husband came over and made an ass of himself and the state took her kids. She is now working as a waitress at a strip club. So i chatted with her a bit. Asked for a date she put up resistance. Chatted with her more and let her spill. Anyway told her it was a sad story and that she probably got all the dates she wanted at the club. That if she wanted to meet for coffee and chat let me know. She responded that she didnt date customers and that she was probably free tonight. I set up a date for 6. Text me if she has to work. I am not giving her money or any of that crap. All i want is 33 yo *****. Im 52 been 20 years since i have had any that age. She might be good for a plate. Thoughts and advice pls no white knight crap...I have my eyes on the prize...puzzy
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hard... first, sounds like she is an attention wh0re, like most internet chicks. You're giving her too much attension and she is used to that already (her workplace...). I would try calling her with a direct approach, but probably a lost case.
 

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If she looks like a HB6 on okcupid, she's likely a fvxking 3 in real life. Unless you're super desperate I'd stay far away. Theres enough red flags here to cover 2 or 3 girls' shortcomings
 

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Hard... first, sounds like she is an attention wh0re, like most internet chicks. You're giving her too much attension and she is used to that already (her workplace...). I would try calling her with a direct approach, but probably a lost case.
I got a date with her tonight. Thought I might get some tips on how to proceed with this type of woman. If she flakes I won't try again. Just got a text from another woman that wouldn't respond the last time. I included my pics with the message.
 

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If she looks like a HB6 on okcupid, she's likely a fvxking 3 in real life. Unless you're super desperate I'd stay far away. Theres enough red flags here to cover 2 or 3 girls' shortcomings
Very true and point well taken. I am going to meet her for coffee and size her up. Im not desperate but would like some young snatch with a short term time frame. I may regret it. I do have a date tomorrow with woman 45 with a fit body. I am also working on a woman 44 with a fit body. It seems like any woman around my age is a pig.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Very true and point well taken. I am going to meet her for coffee and size her up. Im not desperate but would like some young snatch with a short term time frame. I may regret it. I do have a date tomorrow with woman 45 with a fit body. I am also working on a woman 44 with a fit body. It seems like any woman around my age is a pig.
In all honesty that 44 yr old fit woman could have a much nicer body than the 33 yr old that doesn't take care of herself
 

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You are probably ri
In all honesty that 44 yr old fit woman could have a much nicer body than the 33 yr old that doesn't take care of herself[/QUOTE

You are probably right. Going to go just to practice conversation and gaming. I am kind of Leary.
 

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She flaked...No big deal it was on the way home.
 
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