A while ago, I approached this girl named Agnes and I basically made myself look like an AFC. Sure I talked confidently, but I mainly just asked a bunch of questions, and did nothing else. But then dude, I saw her in the hallway and she looked hot, so I thought "Maybe I shouldn't give up on this chick". So I'm wondering, if you had a bad impression with a girl, maybe came off as an AFC, maybe even annoying, should you keep persuing her?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bad first impression. Should I keep persuing this girl?
- Thread starter ElStud
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Yeah, a bunch of times.
It's no biggie, just need one time to show them how awesome you are.
It's no biggie, just need one time to show them how awesome you are.
Next time you talk to the girl Make it seem like you have a bad impression of her ignore her interrupt her, walk away, while calling her a weirdo. make her feel like what you feel like. Any time a female gives me any AFC thoughts i just use them against her to lose my one its , but you have to play it off like shes the one that left a bad impression.
Yea man if you just play your cards right and do what us DJs do shell fall for ya just read the articles ask for advice all that, like this one hot girl i meet about 2 years now and when i first meet her i only read like one thing on this site so i was def AFCin it and i asked her out she regected me of course then a few months later this was also when i havnt read anything on this site she became single again i then asked her out again and got the same answer i just wanna be friends k then i started reading A LOT on here improved my game and my confidence and about around oct. she started falling for me because i was bein a DJ lol and i was like you rejected me twice girl shes like i know but the way i feel about you has changed but i didnt say yea i told her i wasnt ready for dating anyone and for past few months shes always flirting with me hittin on me all that even when she was dating someone. its great
I see, nice advice guys. I saw her tonight after the band concert, but I didn't say anything. Infact, I was wondering what she was even doing there, maybe she has a friend in band who invited her or something. Nonetheless, that definitely means she saw me play(I played bass guitar in jazz band, and baritone sax in concert band. This was sort of a concert for both). The reason I'm scared to talk t her again is, well, what if make the same mistakes again?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
We'll if she was at all interested, she wouldn't be ignoring me basically every time she sees me in the hall. Plus, I was basically getting sort of a bad vibe from the whole group. Know what's it like to be interviewed? Well, I basically did that. I might just give up on the girl considering she's a senior and she's leaving pretty soon anyway. Who's to say that if I approach these girls again I won't screw up and do the interview thing again?
Only a hor will approach you. A real, feminine woman waits for you to be aggressive yourself and will not approach! Don't chicken out. Unless she ignores you *after* you smile/wave/greet her, then don't sweat it.We'll if she was at all interested, she wouldn't be ignoring me basically every time she sees me in the hall.
Besides, you have only talked with her once, and you said it left a bad first impression. Why would she be interested in you at this point? You obviously have to take action if you want to raise her IL.
a pretty good excuse, I'll grant you. I'm a senior in college and lately I've given up the whole dating thing 'til after i graduate.I might just give up on the girl considering she's a senior and she's leaving pretty soon anyway.
then you'll probably be dragged into the street and shot like a dog. Oh wait, no, that's what happens when you criticize the Iranian government in Tehran...My mistake. I was confusing the consequences of different actions.The reason I'm scared to talk t her again is, well, what if make the same mistakes again?