"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bad expierence at a football game

nesblu

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I just had like the worst football game expierence. Originally I went there with 3 friends and as we went in, my friends just started to leave and talk to everyone else. I was left alone. Although I did know some kids hardly any I even talked to at school so finally I was stranded wandering on my own so I left. That was so lame.

Obviously If I got myself into this situation, my social game needs some major work. What can I do to quickly and suddenly increase the amount of kids i know? I talk to my classmates/girls but its the same routine everyday, I'm not like meeting new people at school everyday to dramatically increase by social circle.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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scudge

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I have the same problem.
I can shoot the sh!t with most people, but when it comes to making friends I suck at it. People just don't seem to want to hang out with me either.

Sorry I don't have an answer, but the best best thing I can think of is lose the social anxiety.
 

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I had a not so good football game last Friday. I was supposed to meet some girl there. I was 30 mins. late and it was too crowded. So I forgot about her and moved on after the weekend. No problems.
 

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when you go to a football game everyone is your friend man. wherever you go everyone is your friend so stop being a choad! Last friday i was all alone in my lunch (it was a pep rally day so they split the lunches up and all my friends were in another lunch) so i found three cute girls and i started talking to them. I literally just went up to them and said hi. so just say hi
 

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@Hammertime
Lunch is a good time to try pickup. Nobody has the balls to do it. You will stand put immediately.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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TheVirtualMind

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Don't worry so much about it.

Like Hammertime said, when you go to a football game, basketball game, or any other game, EVERYONE there is your friend!

Even if you have no one to talk to, go buy a hotdog and soda, sit down, eat, drink, and watch the game! Don't stress out about finding people to talk to.

When in class, network. When in lunch, network.
 

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Everyone is comfortable in social situations where they are accepted by the crowd. Mainly this happens when you hang out with friends or friends of friends. When you're part of the in-crowd it easy to be happy and feel cool. This is almost everyone.

What you need to learn is be happy with yourself/proud of who you are/confident.

What you need to learn is be happy by yourself. I'm a pretty sociable person by my actions. I flirt alot and joke around. I'm actually pretty introverted. After i'm done and have my kicks i get tired of talking to people. So i'm pretty content and happy alone, i see it as a time to relax my mind and not have to talk to a whole bunch of people about random crap.

When i get stuck alone i don't see it as a negative i see it as a positive. Obviously i won't be weird if i'm around people that want to talk to me and keep to myself.

If you're alone at the game focus on the game and enjoy it and like others said, a sports game is a huge social gathering where you can be social to everyone surrounding you.
 
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