"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bad expierence at a football game

nesblu

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I just had like the worst football game expierence. Originally I went there with 3 friends and as we went in, my friends just started to leave and talk to everyone else. I was left alone. Although I did know some kids hardly any I even talked to at school so finally I was stranded wandering on my own so I left. That was so lame.

Obviously If I got myself into this situation, my social game needs some major work. What can I do to quickly and suddenly increase the amount of kids i know? I talk to my classmates/girls but its the same routine everyday, I'm not like meeting new people at school everyday to dramatically increase by social circle.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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scudge

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I have the same problem.
I can shoot the sh!t with most people, but when it comes to making friends I suck at it. People just don't seem to want to hang out with me either.

Sorry I don't have an answer, but the best best thing I can think of is lose the social anxiety.
 

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I had a not so good football game last Friday. I was supposed to meet some girl there. I was 30 mins. late and it was too crowded. So I forgot about her and moved on after the weekend. No problems.
 

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when you go to a football game everyone is your friend man. wherever you go everyone is your friend so stop being a choad! Last friday i was all alone in my lunch (it was a pep rally day so they split the lunches up and all my friends were in another lunch) so i found three cute girls and i started talking to them. I literally just went up to them and said hi. so just say hi
 

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@Hammertime
Lunch is a good time to try pickup. Nobody has the balls to do it. You will stand put immediately.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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TheVirtualMind

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Don't worry so much about it.

Like Hammertime said, when you go to a football game, basketball game, or any other game, EVERYONE there is your friend!

Even if you have no one to talk to, go buy a hotdog and soda, sit down, eat, drink, and watch the game! Don't stress out about finding people to talk to.

When in class, network. When in lunch, network.
 

AAAgent

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Everyone is comfortable in social situations where they are accepted by the crowd. Mainly this happens when you hang out with friends or friends of friends. When you're part of the in-crowd it easy to be happy and feel cool. This is almost everyone.

What you need to learn is be happy with yourself/proud of who you are/confident.

What you need to learn is be happy by yourself. I'm a pretty sociable person by my actions. I flirt alot and joke around. I'm actually pretty introverted. After i'm done and have my kicks i get tired of talking to people. So i'm pretty content and happy alone, i see it as a time to relax my mind and not have to talk to a whole bunch of people about random crap.

When i get stuck alone i don't see it as a negative i see it as a positive. Obviously i won't be weird if i'm around people that want to talk to me and keep to myself.

If you're alone at the game focus on the game and enjoy it and like others said, a sports game is a huge social gathering where you can be social to everyone surrounding you.
 
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