(Disclaimer: I'm a KJ and also have similar issues as this poster - so I'm talking to both the OP and myself with these following ideas - ideas could be credited to information sent from John Alanis - his version of creating attracting women is to convey authority - to have authority over rejection requires a frame-change - you qualify her rather than her rejecting you. Rejection is a mind of SCARCITY, Qualifying is a mind of ABUNDANCE - there are many girls out there - focus on who can qualify with you rather than settling with whomever is going to take you on and worrying about rejection).
First of all, let's define rejection here - you are talking about Interest Level - it's not a girl 'rejecting' you, because she probably rejects EVERYONE that doesn't stand out and presents himself DIFFERENT from the other guys.
So, the question is, what makes you DIFFERENT from any other guy, and WHY would she choose you rather than choose any other guy, or choose a guy at all?
That's called a Unique Selling Proposition (USP), and is a value you have to display or convey to her that you have a USP and are not like other guys out there. You are not a wuss, and you are not a jerky cheat or player - you are that special guy that she is looking for and it's her loss if she has an error in judgement or is unable to make the right judgement to choose you. So, the first step to fight these thoughts is to find out your own personal USP - once you figure that out then you just have to communicate it to your targets/prospects.
Furthermore, there is another concept is that instead of worrying about her rejecting you - what you should be worried about is your time, since it is limited - and what makes HER worthy (other than the fact she's not rejecting you) of YOUR time? Why not have a list of what an ideal person it is your looking for and have her qualify herself to you when she asks you what you are looking for in a woman - if you get that far in convo.
These ideas get you into the right frame of mind so you dont get in her frame - rejection means you are subject to her frame of thoughts - qualifying makes her subject to your frame of mind - so it's best to start with some fluff talk (and work on random strangers to get used to fluff) and follow it up by seeing how she qualifies to be with you -- if you like her, then you tell her - she's entertaining to you and possibly worth your time - then you move to close.
Let's put this over: Steps to qualify a woman you are meeting.
- You see an attractive woman --- she initially qualifies to you physically. No-brainer.
(check) --- your respond by approaching her (do not compliment her or remark as an approach already says that indirectly).
- You engage in fluff talk (small-talk - but try to keep it on the environment and more emotional/sexual rather than logical) --- you qualify her to see if she can engage in a nominal convo, how her tone of voice is, if there can be a connection at the most basic level. Do kino tests too in approach/talk. (check) -- if she qualfies - then remark on how she sounds intelligent and gifted and may be more than just another pretty face and tell her your are impressed so far - then follow the next one -
- You test her out to see if she's a prude or a normal sexual girl. (i.e. find out what she's really into and turn it into something romantic/sexual, and say wow - that really gives me a hard-on, or whatever you can think of -- see if she's uncomfortable or encourages it). Continue kino on a push-pull basis and see how far it goes -- do not close yet, just escalate - as you are kino-qualifying her too.
She passes these tests - you have an attractive, intelligent girl who can laugh at your jokes, you can have fun with, and who is not a prude and you can be potentially sexual with and who is obviously enjoying your company - then just close it.
To close it - you say you enjoy her company and think she 'may' be worthy of your time as it's difficult to find a decent women out there -- and cry down how most women are superficial, confused and dont know what they want, and how she's different and impresses you as more than just another girl with a pretty face - and this will probably stand out further than all those other compliments and hit-on other guys have bombarded her with during the day and actually 'mean' something to her.
If she fails any of these tests, or doesn't cooperate with you, then she doesn't fall into the category of the type of girl you'd want to be with anyway - and of course, not every girl is going to qualify, actually only a few would - so - get the term rejection out of your mind as it's her frame - but qualify into your mind -as it's YOUR frame and it's what you do.
Again - if EVERY woman qualifies with you - and you are just worried about rejection - then doesn't that make you a bit crazy - and wont you convey yourself as a any other hungry desperate man that only cares about how someone looks like if you dont qualify - so you have to qualify.
Now - some core concepts are from John Analis, but I extrapolated the rest of it - but you can see by changing the frame where you are in control that rejection throughts could be history.
