Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Back-handed compliment AND opportunity

Leporello

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I was talking to a friend of mine (female) about my difficulties finding a girl after breaking up with my last gf over the summer. Apparently in an attempt to be nice, she told me "Oh don't worry Leporello, you're a real hidden gem".

Whoah. 'Hidden gem'? Not Colin Firth certainly, but 'hidden gem'? That's like telling a girl she has a nice personality.

And now for something completely different...

There's a girl I had class with last year. I went abroad for second semester and we didn't really keep in touch. Every time I see her now, though, she's really agressive in a C + F kind of way. Trouble is, i almost never see her.

I know she works in one of the campus offices (because she told me to stop by) so i stopped by and she wasn't there. Since I don't have her cell I sent her kind of a jackass-y message on facebook:

"Hey, i stopped by the office and you weren't there. Here I am trying to be nice..."

and she wrote back:

"Lol! You're awesome! I'll be there on Friday!"

Obviously this is a positive response. You guys read anything else into it?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Obviously, you should go see her and game her. The light is green.
 

Leporello

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Serialized3 said:
Obviously, you should go see her and game her. The light is green.
Sure. I'll report back after Friday.
 
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