"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Back-handed compliment AND opportunity

Leporello

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I was talking to a friend of mine (female) about my difficulties finding a girl after breaking up with my last gf over the summer. Apparently in an attempt to be nice, she told me "Oh don't worry Leporello, you're a real hidden gem".

Whoah. 'Hidden gem'? Not Colin Firth certainly, but 'hidden gem'? That's like telling a girl she has a nice personality.

And now for something completely different...

There's a girl I had class with last year. I went abroad for second semester and we didn't really keep in touch. Every time I see her now, though, she's really agressive in a C + F kind of way. Trouble is, i almost never see her.

I know she works in one of the campus offices (because she told me to stop by) so i stopped by and she wasn't there. Since I don't have her cell I sent her kind of a jackass-y message on facebook:

"Hey, i stopped by the office and you weren't there. Here I am trying to be nice..."

and she wrote back:

"Lol! You're awesome! I'll be there on Friday!"

Obviously this is a positive response. You guys read anything else into it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Obviously, you should go see her and game her. The light is green.
 

Leporello

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Serialized3 said:
Obviously, you should go see her and game her. The light is green.
Sure. I'll report back after Friday.
 
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