Hello fellow dj's Ive been back from a while ago say probably 3 to 4 years. I need advice right now I'm a disabled veteran and I am set for life the thing now is that its hard for me to find women and also it is hard to say I'm disabled. Im schizophrenic and also I have scars on my knees from being in the Military. I have a picture of myself I would like to show you guys I dont know how I rate or what I need to improve on and would like to. anyways hope you guys could be of assistance.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
I respect your military service, so thanks for that.rossmuten said:Hello fellow dj's Ive been back from a while ago say probably 3 to 4 years. I need advice right now I'm a disabled veteran and I am set for life the thing now is that its hard for me to find women and also it is hard to say I'm disabled. Im schizophrenic and also I have scars on my knees from being in the Military. I have a picture of myself I would like to show you guys I dont know how I rate or what I need to improve on and would like to. anyways hope you guys could be of assistance.
First things first, having us "rate" you doesn't do you any good. You look how you look. Unless you have some porn star mustache or dress like a total d-bag, you're stuck with the body god gave you. You'd already know if you're overweight, etc. No offense, I just feel like it's weird when dudes ask to be rated here. What if you were a**hole ugly? What is a rating gonna do about that? Just look the best YOU can look, and screw what the world rates you as.
Secondly, why do women need to know about your disability? I might have all kinds of various personal issues going on...I don't tell women about them. I mean yeah, as the relationship opens up, you'll want to talk about your past, etc. But for the attraction stage...why bother?
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
The scars on your knees will matter 0%!!!! I have a scar on my neck from when doctors were removing a skintag from my neck and MESSED UP when i was 2 weeks old! It's very noticeable, and i've been asked more than once who gave me the hickie on my neck (it's HUGE, how people mistake it for a hickie - as if im going to let someone suck up down my neck for 6 inches or so - is beyond me)....rossmuten said:Im schizophrenic and also I have scars on my knees from being in the Military. I have a picture of myself I would like to show you guys I dont know how I rate or what I need to improve on and would like to. anyways hope you guys could be of assistance.
The Schizophrenic part is a different story. I know a guy who's married who has that - but he takes a lot of meds and is always groggy sounding from them. He's able to function and have conversations, but he doesn't have a lot of fight in him. So, his wife pretty much runs the relationship. Which is never a good thing. Is it bad? Do you take meds? If you're coming out and telling women that right off the bat - you're probably only going to attract women who like danger and see your disability as such.
Pic - You look like you're wearing a shirt that you slept in. Other than that - don't worry too much; you're perfectly fine. Just upgrade your wardrobe.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
thanks Bukowski I'm on abilify it slows my metabolism down a bit but the medication is supposed to give me clear thinking. Thanks I am trying to upgrade a lot these days and the wardrobe sounds about right. Here is another picture.http://img408.imageshack.us/img408/913/hellod.jpg
bukowski_merit
Master Don Juan
I'm having a hard time understanding how your disability is affecting the way women act towards you... MOST women are more affectionate towards a mans emotions if they know he's disabled. From what you say - they shouldn't be able to know this. No one wants the rep of being the b!tch who acted b!tchy towards a guy because he was disabled. Do you really think a man in a wheelchair would get a "get lost" response from a HB?rossmuten said:Girls haven't been so nice lately since ive been disabled a lot have been prudish,rude,shallow,and some called me a LOSER so right now Ive been wondering wtf!!!
Your schizophrenia is not even something the women should be able to detect.
The scars on your knees shouldn't even be visible (unless you're wearing shorts).
How are either of those things going to get you called a loser?
The problem isn't that at all. It's something else. The way you're approaching, what you're saying, etc.
You're not getting any more hate than a normal guy who trys pick-up does. It's just - you have this disability that you believe is glaring for everyone to see. But it's not... But since you believe that - whenever you get rejected - you blame it.... You can't improve by placing blame on intangibles that you cannot control.