"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Altoidss

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Hey all,

I think I'm doing pretty good most of the time, people (and girls) seem to like me a lot.

However, I do have one problem. I seem to make a lot of awkward comments, I don't notice and usually the reaction doesn't make it seem like that, but I guess it's a fact. I think it stems that when I talk to a girl, I make A LOT of sex jokes. What makes a sex joke acceptable and what makes it an awkward comment?

thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If you are just starting out-it's probably best to stay away from the sex jokes all together;they most likely make you come off as a sex starved individual which isn't attractive persona.
Try seperating yourself and making conversation/jokes about a non sexual topic.
 
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Run everything you say through the 'shall I think it not say it?' filter. Silence or a sly smile is often the best option. Let her try and guess what you are thinking.
 
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well the problem with that is that I guess I lack the taboo of talking about sex. I"m completely comfortable talking about it with girls, so it never seems awkward to me. I'm just not sure what to do.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Altoidss said:
well the problem with that is that I guess I lack the taboo of talking about sex. I"m completely comfortable talking about it with girls, so it never seems awkward to me. I'm just not sure what to do.
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