"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Awesome thought-method to psyche yourself up!

smq650

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I just saw this documentary on TV about the state prison system. It's terrible. They interviewed criminals like murderers and robbers, and on a personal level, they actually seemed like pretty regular people. These people are in prison for 40 years or more. Some are serving life sentences. Think about it, they will never leave prison. They never interact with women. They will never kiss a woman, or be intimate with a woman in their entire lives.

There's a special punishment in prison called the "Detention Unit", or "The Hole". This is where they put prisoners who behave badly. In the documentary they said that the people in The Hole are locked up for 6 months in a tiny cell. They only get to exercise outside of the cell ONCE PER WEEK FOR JUST ONE HOUR. And they can only shower ONCE PER WEEK.

Think about this for a second. Unlike these people, you can walk outside, do anything you want, and talk to any woman. You should be happy that you can go somewhere tomorrow and ask an attractive woman out. Don't take this opportunity for granted, some people don't have it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Only because some people don't deserve to have it cause they're scum of the earth who commit crimes... Let 'em rot in jail.
 

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Chief, you may need to check your aim, you're missing the point. Also, there's no conclusion to your 'Only because' beginning of the half-sentence.

Smq650: of course you're right, but reading this does not create a paradigm shift, it's simply too weak... Perhaps if one would read a good book with this one single message, that not being in prison equals complete freedom, minus the chains in which we think we find ourselves in daily.
 
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