AW or Hot to Trot?

[Juando]

Hey you guys-

A woman who LJBFd me a while back, I went through a bit of oneitis over her, long story short I moved on but recently she's sought me out.
I gave her some time with me, basically treated her like my brat, and now don't put any stock in investing time or energy in her, cute as she is, I don't need an AW in my stable.

But now I'm reflecting on our last convo, which she initiated: she asked me who I was dating and I told her I did not really want to talk about it.
She was persistent just as I was adamant to give her little or no info.
But the convo got sexual- she was asking all sorts of questions about my habits, do I use condoms, what kind, do I get tested for STDs, how long are the love making sessions, etc. Again, I mostly put her off, teased her, gave her a few crumbs. I even said, let me show you my condoms, in fact let's go to bed and get it over with.

I have written her off as an AW to be avoided, but now I need your perspective because sometimes I do miss the forest for the bushes: is she an AW or, as I've just started to wonder, was she sizing me up as a potential sex buddy by asking all those detailed questions? Was I being dense in missing a clear signal or is the AW diagnosis a better one?

I'm not going to pursue her, not going to invest time and energy but if this were to come up again with her, I'm not going to jokingly suggest a path to the bed, I will grab her by the hand and lead her there.

Thoughts?

 

[KontrollerX]

Has she told you about her past interactions with men?

How she has treated them will determine how she will treat you and whether she is an AW or not.

If she mentions many male friends wanting more with her and her not feeling the same, or she tries to paint herself as the eternal victim not responsible for any of her relationship's endings or she talks very callously in a casual manner harshly criticizing her past ex's for why she is no longer with them be advised you are probably dealing with an AW.

Also since you sense you are dealing with an AW and have to treat her like a brat ie like you would treat a difficult child that is also a pretty telling sign.

Deep down you know what she is and that she is vastly different from other women you've met so no more need to doubt.

Stay far far away from this psychological ball of pain or at the very least if possible cut your emotions off from her, keep her at arm's length and use her as a human pincushion.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Juando,
This lady has probably led a relatively sheltered life and is interested in coming out of the closet,she is obviously ignorant about the protocol involved in getting restarted,but will be hot to trot.So set up a date,afterwards ply her with a little alcohol,then it will be easy peasy...She will not be put off but attracted to your Man of the World Persona,so don't play the nice guy...

 

[Juando]

Thanks for keeping me sober and on course, guys!

I'm out of town now but my plan when I get back is to spin every plate
I have and put my *complicated* friend on the back burner....

 

[insidious]

Maybe she tested positive for some crap or other and now she is slyly interrogating all her previous lays. So woman-like of her.

On edit, just realize you were not a previous lay. Oh well, ignore her ass and make her come to you. It's your ballpark.