"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Avoid whippage

Hockey Playa

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My girlfriend lately has asked me to do alot of stuff for her, which results in me spending money. (aka. Buying lunch, booze) shes younger than me and doesnt have a car..Whats the best way to say no? or at least tease her a bit. Her requests arent that ludacris, but im scared of falling into the whipped category.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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comic_relief

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first, just ask her for favors as well.

My girlfriend buys me meals too. she puts the guilt trip on me too to get me to buy her presents. No dice.

She knows that I am dirt poor (AKA no income. I could become a Gigalo but that wouldn't help my relationship :D ). HAHA. I want to enjoy the last year of my high school career. Thats what I am going to do. Just play sports and be with my girlfriend.

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