"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Average LTR
- Thread starter JesterX
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
paraguayandj
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Mar 6, 2004
- Messages
- 232
- Reaction score
- 0
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
comic_relief
Some will say age is just a number, but people pay attention to it.
Undoubtly those girls that are age 20-24 would PREFER being married/ltr with a guy that is 26-29. So if you're not even 26-29, don't even SERIOUSLY think about serious relationships till that. Don't be that stupid military soldier dumbass marrying at 18 to the first girlfriend he's ever dated and then having 1-2 kids and then coming back from Iraq with only one good leg and a couple of fingers lost back. And he finds out she's gained 50lb, OH HO HO!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
girlsarecrazy
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2006
- Messages
- 240
- Reaction score
- 2
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
You know what I find that is kinda humorous to say the least. A lot of the people that have been married for thirty years plus that were the first boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are usually the happiest.girlsarecrazy said:LTR are fun if both people have been through a couple of relationships in the past. Don't hold a LTR each of you are each others first bf/gf.
Of course, these are the groups that are from a bygone era. So maybe that has something to do with it.
comic_relief
girlsarecrazy
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 10, 2006
- Messages
- 240
- Reaction score
- 2
It's because they both have oneitis for each other.comic_relief said:You know what I find that is kinda humorous to say the least. A lot of the people that have been married for thirty years plus that were the first boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are usually the happiest.
Of course, these are the groups that are from a bygone era. So maybe that has something to do with it.
comic_relief
LTR become real long in these situations:
*One loses their virginity to the other
*One's first serious relationship
*Both don't have a lot of friends besides each other