"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
paraguayandj
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comic_relief
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Some will say age is just a number, but people pay attention to it.
Undoubtly those girls that are age 20-24 would PREFER being married/ltr with a guy that is 26-29. So if you're not even 26-29, don't even SERIOUSLY think about serious relationships till that. Don't be that stupid military soldier dumbass marrying at 18 to the first girlfriend he's ever dated and then having 1-2 kids and then coming back from Iraq with only one good leg and a couple of fingers lost back. And he finds out she's gained 50lb, OH HO HO!
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
girlsarecrazy
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You know what I find that is kinda humorous to say the least. A lot of the people that have been married for thirty years plus that were the first boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are usually the happiest.girlsarecrazy said:LTR are fun if both people have been through a couple of relationships in the past. Don't hold a LTR each of you are each others first bf/gf.
Of course, these are the groups that are from a bygone era. So maybe that has something to do with it.
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girlsarecrazy
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It's because they both have oneitis for each other.comic_relief said:You know what I find that is kinda humorous to say the least. A lot of the people that have been married for thirty years plus that were the first boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are usually the happiest.
Of course, these are the groups that are from a bygone era. So maybe that has something to do with it.
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LTR become real long in these situations:
*One loses their virginity to the other
*One's first serious relationship
*Both don't have a lot of friends besides each other