Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Originally posted by Hot Ice
Brandwidth mi arse!
(I'm going to say this again)
WE WANT AVATARS!
I think I made myself clear.![]()
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Originally posted by Hot Ice
EDIT:
I've seen on other forums they put a limit like a 100x100 pixels image at max. and jpg of course. Well they are like 10kb size..
It's not the brandwidth.
I second.Originally posted by Demon
40x40 is a good size. 100x100 is way too big. You only see those sizes on poorly managed forums.
As for porn and flashing images, the most porn you can get on a 40x40 image is a tit and that's not even porn. It's nude art. Even so, I participate in around 8 forums at any one time, and I've yet to see a rated X avatar. A lot of people don't waste their precious avatar spot for nudity/porn.
If avatars were restricted to jpegs and non-animated image formats, there'd be no flashing images. I think .swf and .gif are the only formats that support animation.
Me too. I'd like to have an avatar, don't really care about the size...Originally posted by Hot Ice
I second.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Lol, and the names don't?Originally posted by Evil-Rom
Avatars are good!
Helps recognise people easier.
They'd probably also make this place look like a damn trailer park, they're so tacky. They serve no real purpose at all: they're a diversion, they're ugly.Originally posted by Dee-Zy
not professional.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
What if I get a real sexy one?Originally posted by Von Neuen
They'd probably also make this place look like a damn trailer park, they're so tacky. They serve no real purpose at all: they're a diversion, they're ugly.