"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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AVATARS .. and YOU

Wyldfire

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Gio...slow down a second. When you make the assumption that people will do those things it doesn't send a very good message. It's sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Treat people like 5th graders and they are more likely to behave like 5th graders.

Allowing avatars could be done so that those running the site had full control over the image content. The forum software most likely has a built in program for hosting the avatars and setting the rules for using them...meaning not allowing the avatars to be linked to from an outside URL. In fact, it might even be possible to have people submit avatars for prior approval.
At the very least, some acceptable avatars could be provided for members to choose from. And bandwidth isn't much of an issue with avatars by names. The files are very small and as long as they aren't animated, they load very quickly even on dialup.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Giovanni Casanova

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I'm going to type this super slow to make it easier for everyone to understand:

There is no good reason for avatars. Period. They are more trouble than they are worth, partially because they are worth NOTHING. They are not of added value/benefit to the forum. They are "look-at-me" devices. Exactly the sort of thing we should be wary of here.

Oh, and about the self-fulfilling prophesy... PLEASE. If avatars ever DO happen on this site, I will bet you a box of Mackinac Island fudge for a bottle of Vermont maple syrup that they are abused in less than a week.
 

diplomatic_lie

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How do avatars improve our knowledge of women?

Are we going to use avatars of naked pornstars to motivate our need to pick up?
 

comic_relief

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
Are we going to use avatars of naked pornstars to motivate our need to pick up?
I believe that would make more problems right there. People would spend more time at the site wanking off than out in the real world ;). Like the KJ's don't got enough problems with Diablo's pictures and everything. Now they need pornstars.
 
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