"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wyldfire

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Gio...slow down a second. When you make the assumption that people will do those things it doesn't send a very good message. It's sort of like a self-fulfilling prophecy. Treat people like 5th graders and they are more likely to behave like 5th graders.

Allowing avatars could be done so that those running the site had full control over the image content. The forum software most likely has a built in program for hosting the avatars and setting the rules for using them...meaning not allowing the avatars to be linked to from an outside URL. In fact, it might even be possible to have people submit avatars for prior approval.
At the very least, some acceptable avatars could be provided for members to choose from. And bandwidth isn't much of an issue with avatars by names. The files are very small and as long as they aren't animated, they load very quickly even on dialup.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Giovanni Casanova

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I'm going to type this super slow to make it easier for everyone to understand:

There is no good reason for avatars. Period. They are more trouble than they are worth, partially because they are worth NOTHING. They are not of added value/benefit to the forum. They are "look-at-me" devices. Exactly the sort of thing we should be wary of here.

Oh, and about the self-fulfilling prophesy... PLEASE. If avatars ever DO happen on this site, I will bet you a box of Mackinac Island fudge for a bottle of Vermont maple syrup that they are abused in less than a week.
 
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How do avatars improve our knowledge of women?

Are we going to use avatars of naked pornstars to motivate our need to pick up?
 
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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
Are we going to use avatars of naked pornstars to motivate our need to pick up?
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I believe that would make more problems right there. People would spend more time at the site wanking off than out in the real world ;). Like the KJ's don't got enough problems with Diablo's pictures and everything. Now they need pornstars.
 
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