"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Attractive Faces

zekko

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Here's an interesting study from the University of Exeter.
It says that newborn babies prefer to look at attractive faces than unattractive faces. This suggests that people are hard wired from birth to prefer attractive people.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/science/nature/3631018.stm

Just more grist for the "looks matter/don't matter" mill.
I certainly would not suggest that only looks matter, or that if you unattractive game cannot help you overcome it. I'm just saying obviously it is a factor.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Noodles

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zekko said:
Here's an interesting study from the University of Exeter.
It says that newborn babies prefer to look at attractive faces than unattractive faces. This suggests that people are hard wired from birth to prefer attractive people.
I went to the Exeter Uni. Sounds about right...probably three years of work to state the bleeding obvious.
 

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well done finguring that out. HUUUGe advancement here lol ;)

and yes this might be true but as we grow up we are less superficial, in general.
And we are more and more sensitive to charisma
ex: serge gainsbourg and Brigitte bardot:)
 

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man, you guys can sure beat a topic to death over and over and over and over and not provide any new information.
Its like some of you all are so hungry to fail...

you know, I come here always thinking there's probably a bunch of cool folks in here who know some stuff...and I seem to not be able to shake that feeling, but I just got to realize that some of you will forever be an effect and never a cause in life.

I wish i could go one month without seeing a "looks" thread. all you're doing is contributing to the belief that attractive people are better, its that stupid belief that has a lot of guys in the crappy position they are in now.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i can tell you now, looks dont mean ****. i know some hot chick and shes been with this ugly bald mother fuker for yeaaarrs.
 

NorwegianDJ

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blackwolf said:
i can tell you now, looks dont mean ****. i know some hot chick and shes been with this ugly bald mother fuker for yeaaarrs.
There's always "this one guy", but I agree, looks dont matter much. Maybe they get some attetion, but if you cant act on it, you've come no further than anyone else. It's like having knowledge without putting it to practice.
 

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I will confess that the reason I posted this was for the benefit of a certain poster who is always talking about "72 Nobel Prize Winners". I thought I would post an actual scientific study that he could look at.
 

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Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder/beerholder.
 

Just a Shot Away

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zekko said:
It says that newborn babies prefer to look at attractive faces than unattractive faces. This suggests that people are hard wired from birth to prefer attractive people.
No, it doesn't. What babies find easier to make out with their blurred version says nothing about what women look for in a potential mate. You drew a false conclusion from a six-year old study. The study DOES say that infants prefer Vivaldi played forwards instead of backwards, so this may indicate that adults preferences in music may be similar to that of infants. Very nice.

NorwegianDJ said:
There's always "this one guy", but I agree, looks dont matter much. Maybe they get some attetion, but if you cant act on it, you've come no further than anyone else. It's like having knowledge without putting it to practice.
Well said. That's exactly right. It's always nice to have people who know what they're talking about on these miserable inexplicably unbanned threads.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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