"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Attraction?

shakin'cakes

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Okay, I'm a fairly good looking guy. I always make this girl laugh and we had a great time together today, and I do it to just have fun, not to impress her. I do everything very naturally and I think I'm pretty confident, but somehow today I was gaming very well and did a lot of kino ( not too much ), and got nowhere? No makeout, nothing. I got a really nice hug at the end of our hangout at the mall, but I was hoping for something more.

What did I do wrong?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Five To One

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It was because you were at the mall. Did you expect her to throw herself on you and start making out infront of everyone?

It sounds like you did a good job though.

Next time you hangout have it at a place that is less public and make a move.
 

shakin'cakes

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Five To One said:
It was because you were at the mall. Did you expect her to throw herself on you and start making out infront of everyone?

It sounds like you did a good job though.

Next time you hangout have it at a place that is less public and make a move.
Wow, having read your post I feel dumb not having thought of that..

Haha thanks man.
 

SinJester

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Did YOU go for the makeout? If you didn't then that's what you did wrong. How can you expect the makeout if you didn't go for it. If it was going as well as you said you should have just gone for it!

Grab her hand. Take her somewhere private. Make out. Simple and easy, your just making it complicated because your analysing. Most of your 'problems' you can probably work out yourself if you think about it. If it doesn't work out as plan don't automatically thing you did something 'wrong'. There are no mistakes, just experiance. There are no perfect DJs, just learners. There's never a perfect pickup because the girl is always a variable you can't control.

Anyway, make the move.
 
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