attraction to other girls changing the way you feel about your gf in a relationship?

[TheTraveller]

Hi,

Have any of you been attracted to other girls while in a relationship and have that change the way you feel about your present gf?

This has been happening to me lately with my gf for almost 2 years and it's very distressing. How have you dealt with this? Brake up with girlfriend for grass is greener on the other side? Or has this simply continued with your gf's to a point where you just say "I'm not ready for a LTR right now". FYI, I'm 27.

Thanks,
- T

 

[Dark Chivalry]

Did you start off the relationship both being AFC's and now you became DJ or improved your skill?

Something I see often when couples grow apart is that one person is into self improvement, while the other is not.

 

[TheTraveller]

Definitely! I've started working out and doing intense cardio sessions as well. I'm trying to improve myself, my health and body. Whereas the gf is not doing any of that. Somewhat disconcerning.

 

[speakeasy]

Definitely! I've started working out and doing intense cardio sessions as well. I'm trying to improve myself, my health and body. Whereas the gf is not doing any of that. Somewhat disconcerning.

Yeah, that's going to become a problem. Everyone wants someone who is at least equal to their position on the ladder. If you start perceiving yourself as having gone up the ladder while your lady stagnates, then you're going to feel discontent and start looking for someone with a similiar value to yourself.