"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I have an idea that I've seen used on another board I frequent. I know bans are rare around here and we get away with alot. Thats the good thing about the board. However the negative is that alot of negativity is allowed and doesn't get punished.

So my grand idea is ....drumroll please ...... TIMEOUTS.

If a poster is in a bad mood for a week and is on here being negative and not helpful at all, or trolling, then simply give him a timeout for a week.

If it ever happens again, then you can give him a month long timeout.

Third strike, your out, lifetime ban.

It also might cut down on multiple aliases and cause guys to smarten up. I've seen it work wonders on other forums.

FYI a timeout is a ban where they can't post for said period of time.

Just throwing it out there as an option to improve the board.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I have no idea, I could care less what happens there.

Law 10

Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.
 

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That's not a bad idea. I would like it even better if there wasn't a strict escalation policy I think. I know that when i was going through my divorce I had at various times a lot of, shall we say, pent up angst, that caused me to be a little cranky once in a while.

Everyone has off days or weeks.


Good idea.
 

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Are current system uses warnings, temporary bans, then final banning.

In extreme cases we skip right to ban. But we do currently issue temporary bans
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hell, I'm at strike two so I need to keep my P's and Q's on the straight and narrow.

Unless "someone" can wipe away those 2 previous infractions . . .
 

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mpimpin said:
Are current system uses warnings, temporary bans, then final banning.

In extreme cases we skip right to ban. But we do currently issue temporary bans
I guess grammer isn't a requirement to be a mod. Its our current system, not are current system.

lol just buggin.

Thanks for pointing it out. I guess its because we don't see the warnings. I've also never seen a temporary ban but meh.

Thanks for the explanation.
 

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mpimpin said:
Are current system uses warnings, temporary bans, then final banning.

In extreme cases we skip right to ban. But we do currently issue temporary bans

Maybe just a case where a long streak of "good behavior" resets the previous strikes might be a nice touch. Other than that it seems really a good system, much better regulated that *some other* relationship forums I could mention. *cough*run by nazis*cough*
 

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Grammar isn't required for me to give a vote on banning someone or not :). I can actually just use the thumbs up or down smiley face.

We do take into consideration good behavior and valuable post history.

MacAvoy I don't know if you remember or not but in the case of LMS he received multiple temporary bans. The same with Docs.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MacAvoy said:
sssh were not allowed to talk about that.


ps it was a month ago.
"We're?" You're not a mod are you?
 

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Properly because the good soul was a comedian by career and had a sense of humor that didn't set so well with the Mod's.

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krazyboy99 said:
so does anybody know why he got banned
 

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so does anybody know why he got banned
My guess it had something to do with his sig, I remember him complaining about freedom of speech or something. Rules are rules.

Oh, and I think the mods gave someone a timeout before because they came back with their same screen name a month or so later after their ban. It doesn't mean that the person didn't create another account (or multiple accounts), heaven knows it's happened before.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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LoneSilver said:
Properly because the good soul was a comedian by career and had a sense of humor that didn't set so well with the Mod's.

LoneSilver

Talk about a poor sense of humor, I think iqqi takes that honor. She's also defiantely addressed the mods. I'm not saying she should be banned, I'm just saying I don't how anyone got banned if she didn't :confused:.
 

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Dongfu, Docs, banned for the same reason: pushing commercial products here without paying for ads.
 
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ThunderMaverick said:
I think they did that over at loveshack, right?
yes they do.
They give out infractions for going against said rules. Collect so many infractions and you are banned until the mod feels you can come back.
To many times and you're gone forever, and I have tested this system on more than one occasion, lol..

I do admit that they were very tolerant of me.. I got away with a lot, and I kept pushing, until wam!.. a boot in the ass I got:down:

Yes, O.P. the system works well, but it is more work for the forum ADMIN..
 

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EricInTheHouse said:
yes they do.
They give out infractions for going against said rules. Collect so many infractions and you are banned until the mod feels you can come back.
To many times and you're gone forever, and I have tested this system on more than one occasion, lol..

I do admit that they were very tolerant of me.. I got away with a lot, and I kept pushing, until wam!.. a boot in the ass I got:down:

Yes, O.P. the system works well, but it is more work for the forum ADMIN..
Well over there they banned and deleted my threads without any warning.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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