"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Attitude and mindset prob.

t0mCaT

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What I'm very happy about in this relationship of mine is just how gorgeous my girlfriend is. A definite 10. Ultimately, that's now also the cause of my worry.

We've been together for almost two years now. Lately (say, 3-5 months) we've been getting more serious. Mostly in all senses. And I suspect that's the cause for my newfound... jealousy?

Normally I always put up with the endless catcalling, random people from varsity getting her number and proffessing their love to her endlessly and all the whispers - without any difficulty. In fact, I found it comforting to know that I was everything they were not: typical.

But now.. eh. Some guy at her study lab got her number, and is insisting that she go out with him. Then one of her friends telling my friend how he'd love to bonk her and exactly what he thinks of her.

How do you boys deal with the whole 'she's mine, back off' mentality? I can't go use my baseball bat on everyguy that looks at her? Christ, I've actually considered it now :p

Oh, I'm also convinced that she hates the attention. Mostly because she hardly every complains about it to me. That sound strange? Well... yeah. Guess it does. But yeah. :-/ Admittedly, once I got insecure and checked her phone message records. Eish... I've never seen a girl swear at a guy, telling him to piss off, like that.

Ah, so there it is. Do I need a change of mindset? How does one go about doing that? All these chaps are starting to get to me. Worried I might loose my nerve.

Edit: What suddenly comes to mind is something DavidDeAngelo once said: "Hot girls get hit on all the time. All the time." So should I just accept that as something that always will, and always has, happened? That I shouldn't get upset over things beyond my control? Ehh... Now my mind's asking: "But what if?" :-/
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Modro

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chill the **** out as acting like this will cause her to leave....

stop being so insecure she is with you
 
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