"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Attitude and mindset prob.

t0mCaT

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What I'm very happy about in this relationship of mine is just how gorgeous my girlfriend is. A definite 10. Ultimately, that's now also the cause of my worry.

We've been together for almost two years now. Lately (say, 3-5 months) we've been getting more serious. Mostly in all senses. And I suspect that's the cause for my newfound... jealousy?

Normally I always put up with the endless catcalling, random people from varsity getting her number and proffessing their love to her endlessly and all the whispers - without any difficulty. In fact, I found it comforting to know that I was everything they were not: typical.

But now.. eh. Some guy at her study lab got her number, and is insisting that she go out with him. Then one of her friends telling my friend how he'd love to bonk her and exactly what he thinks of her.

How do you boys deal with the whole 'she's mine, back off' mentality? I can't go use my baseball bat on everyguy that looks at her? Christ, I've actually considered it now :p

Oh, I'm also convinced that she hates the attention. Mostly because she hardly every complains about it to me. That sound strange? Well... yeah. Guess it does. But yeah. :-/ Admittedly, once I got insecure and checked her phone message records. Eish... I've never seen a girl swear at a guy, telling him to piss off, like that.

Ah, so there it is. Do I need a change of mindset? How does one go about doing that? All these chaps are starting to get to me. Worried I might loose my nerve.

Edit: What suddenly comes to mind is something DavidDeAngelo once said: "Hot girls get hit on all the time. All the time." So should I just accept that as something that always will, and always has, happened? That I shouldn't get upset over things beyond my control? Ehh... Now my mind's asking: "But what if?" :-/
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Modro

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chill the **** out as acting like this will cause her to leave....

stop being so insecure she is with you
 
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