Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
In your way wou will find many an AW, believe me. There's not much you can do about it, forget the whole "fixing them" thing... like most people, trying to show them the alternative will only cause them to build resentment against you. Best thing you can do is keep them around as social proof or whatever, and take them for what they are (ie NOT as anything serious; practice in them all you want, but don't get attached).Originally posted by Swoop
After reading those links, it does sound like I'm dealing with an AW. I wonder what causes a girl to become an AW. And is there a way to help them?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Or you could save yourself some stress, heartache, and pain by investing your time in other, more stable and mature, women.Originally posted by jigga23
Currently I have an AW Gf for about 1.5yrs. In the beginning they will smother you and do what it takes to get you. Basically aws have problems and feel that other people should have problems. If you brush them off they will most likely smother another smuck and fvck them right in front of you. but they will still want you. If you want an LTR with them brush them off in the beginning and do not fvck them for a while. Think about it most people will fvck them right away and get all attached. and once she has those guys calling her she will brush them off cause she feels used and wants to get them back. basically they like to make guys squirm. during realtionships they are cool but will pull some bull sh#t right out of the air for no reason. so when they do this say something and dont stand for it threaten to leave. If you do actually leave she will act like she doesnt care but give it a couple of days and they need you. all i can really say is proceed with caution when dealing with AW's because they will one time or another rip you apart just stay strong and it will be ok.