"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Attention wh0res are frustrating time wasters

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There is a girl in my social circle that was chasing me. She was texting, flirting when she saw me, she held eye contact like she wanted to fvck right there. I wasn't really interested since she wasn't that hot.

A month passes, she is still chasing a bit. I run into her in person. She lost weight and looks pretty good. I was busy spinning plates and had other priorities, so I was always busy and never asked her out because I wasn't interested.

Last week I figure hey I could use another plate and I tell her to meet me for drinks. She says "well my boyfriend would probably not like that."

She has been dating a guy for six months and didn't mention him. I think she was just chasing me for attention only. It worked, she "caught" me for a little while at least.

I played it off, but it's kind of frustrating to know these wh0res do this. I'm going to just ignore her from now on as she is (in my mind) a low quality woman. If I had a girlfriend who acted like she did, she would immediately be dumped.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Uncharted said:
I played it off, but it's kind of frustrating to know these wh0res do this. I'm going to just ignore her from now on as she is (in my mind) a low quality woman. If I had a girlfriend who acted like she did, she would immediately be dumped.
And that's how you know her "boyfriend" is a beta faggot.

Clearly this woman is only good for sex and/or FWB at best. :up:
 

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You could have been that guy she cheated on her beta boyfriend with. Then, when you have her, she'll pull the same thing on you and make you a beta boyfriend.

You dodged a bullet. Don't sweat it.
 

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Some people will tell you that is a sh1t test. And that you should say this or that. I will tell you a girl that says that is not interested or has extremely low interest and to move on and not waste your time.

I think that life is too short to try and use some magical "technique" to win over the affection of some girl that you probably won't be able to stand in a few years anyway.

And Darkdouche: I bet your momma is really proud you grew up to be a big strong troll. Go die.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Agreed on all the above except darkwolf obviously. Not really sweating it just intrigued to see this sh1t firsthand. I didn't respond to her IHAB with anything just said OK because I have lost all interest.
 
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Take her out of town, a different area code seems to do the trick.
 

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You phvcked up by taking a woman too seriously. At parties girls compliment me on how delicious my lips are and how muscular I am, I take it like a grain of salt and continue doing my own thing.
 

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SirFratserlot said:
You phvcked up by taking a woman too seriously. At parties girls compliment me on how delicious my lips are and how muscular I am, I take it like a grain of salt and continue doing my own thing.
Isn't it because you have thrown the white tower already. :moon:
 

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Now that you know your princess is in another castle, drop her ass and don't talk to her anymore.

Case closed.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SirFratserlot said:
You phvcked up by taking a woman too seriously. At parties girls compliment me on how delicious my lips are and how muscular I am, I take it like a grain of salt and continue doing my own thing.
What did you used to do, when they said these things?
 

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SirFratserlot said:
actually try to talk to them back, but Id end up getting teased.
That's not a lot to gy by... did you turn them off in some way, and have them become less interested by your behavior / personality once you opened up? Did you flirt / charm back? Act light-hearted? Like a cool, funny, ****y, all-around interesting guy? In what way would they tease?
 

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Well, gotta go to bed... there's gotta be something else going on, though. I question how your social / conversational skills are...
 

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I talk to them briefly like I would with any other and the convo will last like a minute and they'll walk away to do sloot stuff.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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