"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Attention Wh0re(?) Question

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What’s up. Okay, here’s the deal…I’ll try to keep as short as possible. There’s a girl, who led me to find this site. I’ve always thought she was an attention wh0re, but all the while had my doubts that maybe I was just an AFC who didn’t know how to **** her. For any reason that this may be important, she's cute, not gorgeous, but a bit better looking than average...nothing special.

Quick Background
I met her two years ago, and she was instantly interested in constantly hanging out. I couldn’t hang out much though. So, we talked online / on the phone a lot, for hours at a time. Hundreds of times she would tell me how she was home alone, how she was drunk and alone, etc sex talk. I was a socially retarded chump, and never ****ed her. I also never touched her, aside from shaking her hand. She claimed to get along better with guys, although she had one or two good female friends.

Fast forward a bit to when I found this site. I decided I would keep her as a friend. In school, I coincidentally was roomed with one of her guy friends, or guy that she dated. I got to know him and his friends, and after a while I got tired of their immature high school behavior. They would throw food at the dinner table…these are college juniors! I spent less time with them, and eventually when they became disrespectful to me, I confronted them. Turned out they were insecure pussies who couldn’t even talk to me, they were scared ****less and backed off. Anyway, a few weeks later, I guess the girl talked with them, and they must have made some **** up behind my back and told her to stay away from me or something. Because I never heard from her for like 4 or 5 months, until now.

It is also worth mentioning that she would disappear occasionally, and I seemed to grasp that she had a pattern of contacting me most times when she was single. When she was seeing a guy, she would disappear.

…Well, she just IM’s me out of the blue, gives me her phone number and tells me to call her. I replied “ah…maybe, maybe not”

One part of me wants to prove to myself that I was an AFC then and that I can **** her, and the other part of me is saying stay the **** away, she’s trouble. She doesn’t have my number; otherwise she would have called me.

Any suggestions?
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edit: btw, we hung out a few times, but other times I would flake on her a lot. I'm not sure if that's important, but just thought I'd mention it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I wouldn't waste my time with the past. I'm assuming she is just using you for attention and nothing more. You already are in the LJBF zone.

You said yourself she is an attention *****. If you truly are a reform AFC then then you shouldn't have to worry about what she thinks of you now.
 

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Originally posted by flexion_
I wouldn't waste my time with the past. I'm assuming she is just using you for attention and nothing more. You already are in the LJBF zone.

You said yourself she is an attention *****. If you truly are a reform AFC then then you shouldn't have to worry about what she thinks of you now.
yeah, true i'm already in the friend zone.

i was actually glad she hadn't called me for so long, so i honestly could care less what she thinks. i'm just wondering if i should try to hit it?

in other words, what is the success rate you guys have had with using your new found dj manhood to hit an attention ***** from your past?
 

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0%. attention *****s aren't worth your time. find a decent girl. **** around with her head, that's what i'd do
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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