"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Attention seekers on OLD - at what point is enough?

JayAce

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I’ve been on and off Tinder for the last couple years since a ltr ended. I’ve notched the occasional lay off of it in that span.

The thing I was pondering earlier was... when is the boiling point for some of these women who are on apps just for attention, but have no intention of ever meeting? Does it ever end? Until they finally meet their “Chad”?

I bring this up because I matched with a woman a couple years ago. We made small talk and then I brought up meeting up after a few msgs. She said she was broke, etc. So I said “no worries. hit me up if things change”. Left it at that and kept matching with other women.

A few weeks go by and she msgs me on the app and gives me her number. I give her mine back thinking “maybe she does want to meet”. I bring up the topic again. No dice. Says she is going through issues and recently had a panic attack. I just said “no worries. hope you get everything sorted out”.

This was in 2016.

This chick has txted me every few weekends for the most part for the past two years. There was one stretch that went a few months without contact, but that was it. She initiates all of the texts. I respond to less than 40% of them. They always say the same thing “Hey” “Hey there” “Hi” “What’s up”

“Well maybe she wants to hook up”. I don’t think so. I brought up hanging out again mid-last year when she texted and she brought up the issues excuse again.

I browsed her FB awhile back and see no sign of a BF, but I’m sure she does this to a lot of her matches. Just gets off on men msging and texting her. One thing I did notice on her FB was that she was a bit heavier in a couple of her tagged photos than she is in her main profile pics. I’m thinking she may be self conscious about that. If I had to rate her in the tagged pictures... a 4. If I had to rate her in her main pics (which were also her Tinder pics) a 7.

At which point is enough for them?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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At which point is enough for them?
No... at which point is it enough for you. How much longer do you want to be an orbiter or when are you going to stop replying to her, delete her info, stop going on her FB and stop thinking about her?
 

sazc

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you need to rely on YOUR STANDARDS, not someone elses.
 
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Tilex

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Online dating peaked ages ago.
You have no idea how much better it was 1 or 2 decades ago.
Meeting high quality chicks online these days is absolutely a myth.
You would have more luck finding the fountain of youth and drinking from it.

As long as you're looking for chicks online, you're feeding into the female ego.
It's never going to end because they're always hungry for it.
Think of it as fish in a tank and male attention is the food.
The fish eats the food and gives nothing back.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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