"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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attempted pick up, failed how to act now?

drift king

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last week i attempted to pick up a girl at my college, i thought i did ok but she was like 'no i dont want to i only want to go out with my friends that's it'

i saw her for the 1st time since then she said hi to me, we were studying in same cafe, i then went up to her asking what perfume she was wearing that day cos she smelt nice.. it wasn't her i was smelling lol.. it was someone else.. but cos i did it in such a direct manner it backfired..

i shoulda quit then, but i went into convo with her while she was sitting down later on for about 20mins tryna run game.. then she went for a cigarette so it ended. i then packed my stuff and left and as i was leaving i tried 1 last time to see if i could get her out.. she was like 'no i dont want to be impolite but i dont want.. only with my friends im not looking for a bf or any guy.. u are making me feel uncomfortable cos you're so..' (she gestures in a forward forward motion)

i knew i f'd up then.. i was like 'cool well if u change your mind then let me know tho im not asking again cos i only ask twice cos i have some pride' she doesn't speak english properly so i ended up having to say things again and again. she's like 'dont be angry ok..' i was thinking i wasn''t angry or annoyed but it must have shone through.

anyway.. i cant go back to that cafe anymore to pick up other girls cos shes always there.. how should i act next time i see her?

shes done me a favor, shes not into me so im wasting my time. but i dont want to act bitter if i see her next time.. is the best way to deal with this is to put on a smile say hi but dont stop for any chit chat?

i heard u have to show to her that she's missing out on something.. a bitter rejected afc i guess would avoid her and be angry and blank her.. me.. its her loss, that should be my mentality? she should have such little affect on me that its easy for me to walk around with a swagger and say hi.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jdjd

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whats wrong w/ being friends? be yourself?
 

pete101

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Why would he want to be friends with her??

There's no point being LJBF'd. You'll just end up getting annoyed when you see her with some other guy if you become friends.
 

jdjd

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pete101 said:
Why would he want to be friends with her??

There's no point being LJBF'd. You'll just end up getting annoyed when you see her with some other guy if you become friends.
what i meant is...not good friends or best friends...

u just say hi and bye....and dont hate or anything....and just move on....like everyone on the forum says..."her loss..."

instead..of friends....or should i say acquaintance...?
 

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Frm what I can understand, she basically told you to back off. Which means you're doing something very wrong. Maybe you're being way too friendly/ obnoxious?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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playerone

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I would go for the "Hi & Bye" thing. No more conversations unless she initiates.

Learn from this failed pick-up. Show some confidence, continue to talk to other girls in that cafe. Nothing should stop you.
 
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