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I hear you, Mr. Positive. And I agree. As you do know though, many times it's hard to tell (not until you go out with these women once or twice) that a woman is heartless/insensitive and shallow. I guess for me, it's a lot more of a learning experience coming from another culture and country where women are nicer, more humble and approachable. Humility is a trait that I personally admire in a woman. But based on my experiences so far in the dating culture in this country, a lot of women here are so spoiled and have a pretty much unfair advantage and power over men in the initial phases of dating and relationships.
One of the things I'm trying to be a lot more careful about is the places I hang out at. Night clubs, from what I've experienced during all these years, aren't the best places for me to meet women because a lot of the women who frequent those places usually don't appreciate a guy like me. The ones who seek their one-night stands and bad boys won't find anything interesting in someone like me who desires quality, substance and a longterm relationship. And during my undergraduate years in college, I was passed over countless times for the so-called thugs who were perceived to be more exciting. Once in a while, I run into a few of those women who turned me down in college for those superficial reasons and a lot of them can't even look at me in the eyes anymore. They see that I'm a different person, that my priorities have changed, and I discern a lot of regret in some of their eyes because they know that I definitely wouldn't be interested in talking to them at this point.
So it's pretty much been a process of self-healing for me. I don't think there are that many men in this country who've been through some of the pain I have endured in dating-never having had a girlfriend throughout college, being made to feel as if you're not good enough or worthy enough to be be "boyfriend material," etc. That's why these days, when I all of a sudden get attention from women who I know for sure wouldn't have given me a second look a couple of years back, I just laugh inside. Everyone deserves a chance at love. I wish I could spot out woman from a distance who could be a potential trouble maker, but many times you really can't tell until you start trying to get acquainted with the person. And during that process of trying to talk to her, there is of course the risk that she might hurt you again. I strongly believe that I would make a good boyfriend and husband and maybe someday, a father. I respect myself and I don't think it makes sense for me to keep giving some of these air heads out there an opportunity to treat me with such spite and disrespect.
I hear you, Mr. Positive. And I agree. As you do know though, many times it's hard to tell (not until you go out with these women once or twice) that a woman is heartless/insensitive and shallow. I guess for me, it's a lot more of a learning experience coming from another culture and country where women are nicer, more humble and approachable. Humility is a trait that I personally admire in a woman. But based on my experiences so far in the dating culture in this country, a lot of women here are so spoiled and have a pretty much unfair advantage and power over men in the initial phases of dating and relationships.
One of the things I'm trying to be a lot more careful about is the places I hang out at. Night clubs, from what I've experienced during all these years, aren't the best places for me to meet women because a lot of the women who frequent those places usually don't appreciate a guy like me. The ones who seek their one-night stands and bad boys won't find anything interesting in someone like me who desires quality, substance and a longterm relationship. And during my undergraduate years in college, I was passed over countless times for the so-called thugs who were perceived to be more exciting. Once in a while, I run into a few of those women who turned me down in college for those superficial reasons and a lot of them can't even look at me in the eyes anymore. They see that I'm a different person, that my priorities have changed, and I discern a lot of regret in some of their eyes because they know that I definitely wouldn't be interested in talking to them at this point.
So it's pretty much been a process of self-healing for me. I don't think there are that many men in this country who've been through some of the pain I have endured in dating-never having had a girlfriend throughout college, being made to feel as if you're not good enough or worthy enough to be be "boyfriend material," etc. That's why these days, when I all of a sudden get attention from women who I know for sure wouldn't have given me a second look a couple of years back, I just laugh inside. Everyone deserves a chance at love. I wish I could spot out woman from a distance who could be a potential trouble maker, but many times you really can't tell until you start trying to get acquainted with the person. And during that process of trying to talk to her, there is of course the risk that she might hurt you again. I strongly believe that I would make a good boyfriend and husband and maybe someday, a father. I respect myself and I don't think it makes sense for me to keep giving some of these air heads out there an opportunity to treat me with such spite and disrespect.
There is just too many exciting adventures in life to explore, with or without women. Let women sit and wonder why all the truly good men aren't on their knees praising them. Never date a woman that complains there aren't enough good men around...run from her.
