"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Perry

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Last weeks goals:

Do * activities (I did them except for wearing my retainer. I wore it once. I haven't really worn it since it cuts my mouth...Im just gonna wear it once a week from now on.
Go to the gym at least twice (I went once)
Invite 25 people (I invited 30 people)
Be social everyday (I did this)
Wake up at 9 at the latest everyday (haha not even close) I woke up at 9 once.

This weeks goals:

- Do * activities
- Be social everyday. No being shy.
- Invite 20 people
- Finish background check
- Dont miss a gym day and keep up my food log

I dont really know what else to work on... I only want to do so much at a time, but I feel like I could do a bit more.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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1. Don't know if I got Bank Teller Job yet.
2. Did good on my exams.
3. Studied only once :/
4. Got my swoll on twice.
5. No dimes.
6. Got way more comfortable.

Goals for this Week
1. Get me a salaried job or internship!
2. Workout hard 2x.
3. Get a tall light skin shawty.
4. Study hard for this GMAT test
1. Applied to many jobs. No jobes yet however.
2. Worked out 2x this week.
3. No tall light skinned shawty -_-
4. Didn't study once.

Goals for this week.
1. Stay on the job campaign.
2. Workout 2x.
3. Spit at fine girls. (Seems I been hollerin at lower chicks just for an ego boost when I'm drunk.)
4. Do well on test.
5. Study at least once for my GMAT test.
 

Perry

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Last weeks goals:

This weeks goals:

- Do * activities (Did these)
- Be social everyday. No being shy. (I was doing well until I became sick and stayed inside for a few days. Im almost over my sickness though)
- Invite 20 people (I became sick so there was no point in inviting)
- Finish background check (I finished it)
- Dont miss a gym day and keep up my food log (I missed two gym days when I got sick. I kept up my food log pretty well, not perfect though)

This weeks goals:

- Do * activities
- Get back on track this week
- Hit the gym at least once this week
- Write down daily goals every day
- Look into suing landlord
 

Perry

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Last weeks goals:

- Do * activities (I didnt foam roll or stretch enough...)
- Get back on track this week (Kinda got back on track, not entirely though)
- Hit the gym at least once this week (Yup)
- Write down daily goals every day (Nah, did it for 4 days)
- Look into suing landlord (Didnt do this. Im trying to severely cut back on pc time because my eyes hurt too much when Im on it too long)

This weeks goals

- Do * activities
- Hit the gym 4 times
- Keep up with food log
- Get to LBCC
 

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Its been a good 6 weeks and here's an update on my progress:

1. I'm up to 117lbs now.

2. My grades have improved to solid Bs and As, finals in 2 days time.

3. I've stopped gymming as of now, will resume in about 2 weeks time when the wave of exams are over, until then I'm sticking to BW exercises to mantain strength.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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1. Work out 4 days
2. Stop eating midnight snacks
3. Fclose 2 times
4. Read an ebook
5. Spend at least 4 hours studying (continued learning)
 

Perry

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This weeks goals

- Do * activities (I did these)
- Hit the gym 4 times (I got there 3 times)
- Keep up with food log (I kept up for 5 days...)
- Get to LBCC (Didnt need to, I called them)

Im not going to be able to come on the pc that much anymore because it hurts my eyes. I was going to also start updating my food log and workout routine but cant do that, for now at least.
 

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So I barely passed my GMAT.... Sh!t is crazy especially in my goals it was to study and I studied 2x for it. Here are some new goals for the week.

1. Gym 2x, Ab workout 2x.
2. Study one chapter of Operations Management.
3. Apply to new jobs every day.
 

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Great work, guys, absolutely great.

I've been a little scarce for the past few weeks due to helping some family in crisis and some pressing business issues, but I'll set forth my new goals for the upcoming week this weekend.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WOOOO FINALS ARE OVER!!!

My goals for this week then :D

1. Get a food scale
2. Start working out on Monday
3. Approaching girls at a bar after prom
 

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1. Keep my head up an keep applying for salaried jobs (just graduated.)
2. 2 Good ab workouts this week.
3. Work on talking more slowly.

That's it for this week. Can't be social since everyone in my city went to their respective home for the break (college city). I'm out here to work my hourly job.
 
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This week:

1) Work out 3 days
2) Get together the rest of the junk I need to throw out
3) Do the invoicing that I have fallen behind on
4) Bible every day
5) Stock up on healthier food
 

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Im back. My eyes have gotten much better. Now I can be on the computer for more than 5 minutes.

Goals this week:

-Go to the gym 3 times
-sign up for harbor and el co
-get xmas presents
-get car checked out
 

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Atom Smasher said:
This week:

1) Work out 3 days
2) Get together the rest of the junk I need to throw out
3) Do the invoicing that I have fallen behind on
4) Bible every day
5) Stock up on healthier food
1) 2 days only. Gotta improve.
2) Did that to a good degree, gotta continue.
3) Did it.
4) Fail. Next week I need to get serious about this.
5) Took some small steps. I have a very limited diet due to stomach problems, so my choices are limited. Discovered I can eat apples without the skin, so bought some. Bought some bananas. Those are the only fruits I can eat. Next week, I'm going to work on developing my six small meals per day, and that will mean preparing some food beforehand.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
1. Keep my head up an keep applying for salaried jobs (just graduated.)
2. 2 Good ab workouts this week.
3. Work on talking more slowly.

That's it for this week. Can't be social since everyone in my city went to their respective home for the break (college city). I'm out here to work my hourly job.
I keep applying. No luck though.
Only did one approach
Excellent, Speaking more slowly and cleary.

Goals for this week

1. Find a new f^&*ng job with a salary.
2. Two Ab Workouts
 

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Keep it up, AJ. Something will break for you on the job front. It's definitely a numbers game and it can often seem totally hopeless right before the big break happens.
 

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Well last week of the year. So here are my goals for this week. Next week I'll have goals for 2012.

1. Keep my head up and keep applying to new jobs.
2. Figure out a consistent method on how I deal with phone game dealing with chicks.
3. Re-Read a chapter of my Elite Way book.
4. Get two good workouts this week
5.
 
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Perry said:
Goals this week:

-Go to the gym 3 times
-sign up for harbor and el co
-get xmas presents
-get car checked out
- I hit the gym 3 times
- I signed up for harbor and el co
- i got xmas presents
- i got car checked out, but not fixed

This week:

-Try and get car fixed
-register for harbor
-try and sell some stuff online
-look into suing ex-landlord
-hit gym 3 times
 

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1. Get my MBA.
2. Get a salaried job.
3. Make sure I have constant rotation of dimes.
4. Make sure I hit the gym 4x a month.
5. Make sure I'm constantly improving myself.

This Weeks Goal

1. Get a good workout.
2. Read some of the The Elite Way and other books.
3. Find more places in my city to apply for salaried positions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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