I'm talking about a woman who wants a real man she can be with for the rest of her life, to raise a family and all that. This is not a complain by any means. I'm just wondering which range of women are out there wanting to play or are out there tired of the game.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
At what age do women start thinking of settling down?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Poonani Maker
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Most of the women I've met who are in the "settle down" mindframe are in/from church, and it happens Quick! I mean, dudes don't even know each other that well and Bam, they're married, Bam they're having kids. Churches like to grow membership from within, which even translates to the long, arduous process of raising children IN the church. Churches, even today, "ok" arranged marriages between families within the church. ADDING membership whichever way they can in this less and less church-going country/world is the initiative today. Sacrifice is Big in the church.
aaah how about those that aren't from church?PSYCHO
Banned
It starts at birth - it's a feminine design, The "weaker" always seeks security.
scrouds
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For a lot of america, its happening after a chick has a kid.
Then she starts looking for a nice beta to have a family.
Then she starts looking for a nice beta to have a family.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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I say when she get a 40%+ of bodyfat,thats the time she stop be a party girls and seek for a relationship where the man cant leave without conseguences.
But also scrouds theory its right.
But also scrouds theory its right.
Hughman
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When her looks start going downhill.
...wait, what?
...wait, what?
MisterMcGee
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Women age 15-30/35: Guys go crazy for them. They're hot, got curves, good skin, tight body, perkiness, and so forth. They have incredibly low self esteem, so they keep themselves feeling good about themselves by getting approval by attractive, high-status men.
What happens when they can no longer get this confidence boost? That would suck, wouldn't it.
Women age 30/35+: Don't have the youth they used to have. Men are no longer falling over for them. They cannot seduce a man based on their sex appeal and appearance. A girl who is worth little in the personality/intelligence department will end up unable to hold the interest of a decent man. She'll look for attention elsewhere. She'll find men who will give her attention even though she is nothing more than an aging *****. These are the niceguys (not nice guys, niceguys), betas, softies, and AFCs.
Of course the age given is BS. There's no "Age" limit to this transformation. As long as a woman can hold the interest of hot, awesome, cool guys, she'll take advantage of the amazing feeling it gives her. Being able to sleep with awesome guys makes her feel better about herself because her self-esteem is based on NOTHING MORE than how hot she is to hot guys.
Naturally, when that's no longer possible, she'll lower her standards in order to continue getting that flimsy confidence boost from attracting and hooking in a male - this time, a guy with low standards as well.
When a woman depends on men for confidence, and the man doesn't do what the woman wants her to do (thus denying her that CRUCIAL confidence boost), it's easy to hate cool high-status men as a result.
Story of America.
What happens when they can no longer get this confidence boost? That would suck, wouldn't it.
Women age 30/35+: Don't have the youth they used to have. Men are no longer falling over for them. They cannot seduce a man based on their sex appeal and appearance. A girl who is worth little in the personality/intelligence department will end up unable to hold the interest of a decent man. She'll look for attention elsewhere. She'll find men who will give her attention even though she is nothing more than an aging *****. These are the niceguys (not nice guys, niceguys), betas, softies, and AFCs.
Of course the age given is BS. There's no "Age" limit to this transformation. As long as a woman can hold the interest of hot, awesome, cool guys, she'll take advantage of the amazing feeling it gives her. Being able to sleep with awesome guys makes her feel better about herself because her self-esteem is based on NOTHING MORE than how hot she is to hot guys.
Naturally, when that's no longer possible, she'll lower her standards in order to continue getting that flimsy confidence boost from attracting and hooking in a male - this time, a guy with low standards as well.
When a woman depends on men for confidence, and the man doesn't do what the woman wants her to do (thus denying her that CRUCIAL confidence boost), it's easy to hate cool high-status men as a result.
Story of America.
scrouds
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Son of anarchy said:
Mine is first hand experience. Want to meet my sister in law?
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It depends on the girl.. I know plenty of girls that are 18 and have a baby and a fiance.. I also know girls that have gotten married right out of highschool. On the other hand i know girls that are 25+ and not even thinking about merrige.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think for most women, it happens somewhere around 27-28. Of course marriage is a bell curve with a few getting married as teens, some get married for the first time after 40, but I think for the majority of women, it's somewhere in the mid to late 20s range. Also depends on where you are too. If you live in a small town in the midwest, that bell curve will be shifted down. If you live somewhere like Miami Beach of Hollywood where eternal youth, beach bodies and beauty are worshipped, probably shifted way later as people want more time to run wild and play. Kids and family tend to have a way of cramping that lifestyle.vagrant said: