I'm talking about a woman who wants a real man she can be with for the rest of her life, to raise a family and all that. This is not a complain by any means. I'm just wondering which range of women are out there wanting to play or are out there tired of the game.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
At what age do women start thinking of settling down?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Poonani Maker
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Most of the women I've met who are in the "settle down" mindframe are in/from church, and it happens Quick! I mean, dudes don't even know each other that well and Bam, they're married, Bam they're having kids. Churches like to grow membership from within, which even translates to the long, arduous process of raising children IN the church. Churches, even today, "ok" arranged marriages between families within the church. ADDING membership whichever way they can in this less and less church-going country/world is the initiative today. Sacrifice is Big in the church.
aaah how about those that aren't from church?PSYCHO
Banned
It starts at birth - it's a feminine design, The "weaker" always seeks security.
scrouds
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For a lot of america, its happening after a chick has a kid.
Then she starts looking for a nice beta to have a family.
Then she starts looking for a nice beta to have a family.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I say when she get a 40%+ of bodyfat,thats the time she stop be a party girls and seek for a relationship where the man cant leave without conseguences.
But also scrouds theory its right.
But also scrouds theory its right.
Hughman
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When her looks start going downhill.
...wait, what?
...wait, what?
MisterMcGee
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Women age 15-30/35: Guys go crazy for them. They're hot, got curves, good skin, tight body, perkiness, and so forth. They have incredibly low self esteem, so they keep themselves feeling good about themselves by getting approval by attractive, high-status men.
What happens when they can no longer get this confidence boost? That would suck, wouldn't it.
Women age 30/35+: Don't have the youth they used to have. Men are no longer falling over for them. They cannot seduce a man based on their sex appeal and appearance. A girl who is worth little in the personality/intelligence department will end up unable to hold the interest of a decent man. She'll look for attention elsewhere. She'll find men who will give her attention even though she is nothing more than an aging *****. These are the niceguys (not nice guys, niceguys), betas, softies, and AFCs.
Of course the age given is BS. There's no "Age" limit to this transformation. As long as a woman can hold the interest of hot, awesome, cool guys, she'll take advantage of the amazing feeling it gives her. Being able to sleep with awesome guys makes her feel better about herself because her self-esteem is based on NOTHING MORE than how hot she is to hot guys.
Naturally, when that's no longer possible, she'll lower her standards in order to continue getting that flimsy confidence boost from attracting and hooking in a male - this time, a guy with low standards as well.
When a woman depends on men for confidence, and the man doesn't do what the woman wants her to do (thus denying her that CRUCIAL confidence boost), it's easy to hate cool high-status men as a result.
Story of America.
What happens when they can no longer get this confidence boost? That would suck, wouldn't it.
Women age 30/35+: Don't have the youth they used to have. Men are no longer falling over for them. They cannot seduce a man based on their sex appeal and appearance. A girl who is worth little in the personality/intelligence department will end up unable to hold the interest of a decent man. She'll look for attention elsewhere. She'll find men who will give her attention even though she is nothing more than an aging *****. These are the niceguys (not nice guys, niceguys), betas, softies, and AFCs.
Of course the age given is BS. There's no "Age" limit to this transformation. As long as a woman can hold the interest of hot, awesome, cool guys, she'll take advantage of the amazing feeling it gives her. Being able to sleep with awesome guys makes her feel better about herself because her self-esteem is based on NOTHING MORE than how hot she is to hot guys.
Naturally, when that's no longer possible, she'll lower her standards in order to continue getting that flimsy confidence boost from attracting and hooking in a male - this time, a guy with low standards as well.
When a woman depends on men for confidence, and the man doesn't do what the woman wants her to do (thus denying her that CRUCIAL confidence boost), it's easy to hate cool high-status men as a result.
Story of America.
scrouds
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Son of anarchy said:
Mine is first hand experience. Want to meet my sister in law?
Prodigy746
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It depends on the girl.. I know plenty of girls that are 18 and have a baby and a fiance.. I also know girls that have gotten married right out of highschool. On the other hand i know girls that are 25+ and not even thinking about merrige.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think for most women, it happens somewhere around 27-28. Of course marriage is a bell curve with a few getting married as teens, some get married for the first time after 40, but I think for the majority of women, it's somewhere in the mid to late 20s range. Also depends on where you are too. If you live in a small town in the midwest, that bell curve will be shifted down. If you live somewhere like Miami Beach of Hollywood where eternal youth, beach bodies and beauty are worshipped, probably shifted way later as people want more time to run wild and play. Kids and family tend to have a way of cramping that lifestyle.vagrant said: