Maximus Optimus
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- Feb 16, 2021
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- 45
I hear alot of guys say they started to notice it in there early 40s or at age 50. When did you notice it?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I take nightly fish oil capsules. Omega 3 helps fight inflationSame for me. This year I started to notice that I am stiff getting out of bed. I started taking joint support supplements and noticed a decrease in stiffness.
8? How has that been? I’ve found if I have too much omega 3 compared to omega 6 my skin breaks outI take 8, 320mg fish oil capsules daily. The only sugar I add is 1 tbsp of sugar in my oatmeal.
This. And all throughout wonderful 2020 at the age of 32 a bit. But I've always been a heavier individual with a lot more mass and joint issues than my peers had in service and out.I notice it at 33 but if I’m eating good and working out it’s less so.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That’s fair. On the other side I’m super skinny and if I don’t eat enough, I can almost feel my body eating itself or “atrophy”. It’s not good. It’s like every day we have to fight the decay in some form or another. Is what it is tho.This. And all throughout wonderful 2020 at the age of 32 a bit. But I've always been a heavier individual with a lot more mass and joint issues than my peers had in service and out.
Yep..it's almost that time to switch weightlifting to more longevity-focused as opposed to putting all the weight on a bar and crazy cardio to stay in tape standards like it's been for years (with and sometimes without clean dieting). I'd rather be a lot lighter like yesteryear. Those jokes they make about us popping Motrin, having bad joints and crippling depression in return for serving our country are sadly, real. Now ibuprofen hardly helps, in fact, the VA told my bud from basic training not to take it anymore. LMAO. Eh, it was fun while it lasted. Right now I'm dealing with having to have my molar removed after complications from the last operation on it (all stemming from a boxing incident NOV 2019). YAY!That’s fair. On the other side I’m super skinny and if I don’t eat enough, I can almost feel my body eating itself or “atrophy”. It’s not good. It’s like every day we have to fight the decay in some form or another. Is what it is tho.
Yikes. Maybe try eating some anti-inflammatory foods. Blueberries, omega 3(fish), pomegranate, matcha tea.Yep..it's almost that time to switch weightlifting to more longevity-focused as opposed to putting all the weight on a bar and crazy cardio to stay in tape standards like it's been for years (with and sometimes without clean dieting). I'd rather be a lot lighter like yesteryear. Those jokes they make about us popping Motrin, having bad joints and crippling depression in return for serving our country are sadly, real. Now ibuprofen hardly helps, in fact, the VA told my bud from basic training not to take it anymore. LMAO. Eh, it was fun while it lasted. Right now I'm dealing with having to have my molar removed after complications from the last operation on it (all stemming from a boxing incident NOV 2019). YAY!
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What do you do to be in such good shape?middle thirty, until middle fifty when decided to do better. for now, I feel better or as good as twenty-five and can outrun most twenty-five if they are not also working at it. When getting injured however the healing still takes longer.
sprints.What do you do to be in such good shape?
Sex 2 times a day??? Dude if I have sex once my d!ck is out of commission for a few hours. How do you get it in such good condition?sprints.
heavy lifting.
sex 2x a day.
clean food.
one or two whiskies 1x a week.
pray.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.