"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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At the mall

.illadelph

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I recently got my drivers license and i went up to the mall today. I was actually looking for an application to some select stores. i had no intention of even approaching any girls or meeting any for that matter. anyway, i went into Hollister, a store i've never been in before, simply because too many white people rock that clothing, lol. they have alright clothing.

to my surprise, i seen a girl that looked familiar working there. she was in one of my classes from last year. she looked a lot better now(about an HB8) compared to last year. it was weird. she's a freshman in college now, and i had something to work with. i mustered up the courage to say hi, and i asked her if she remembered me. she did, and we started talking. eventually i asked her about some clothes and how they fit on me, and she even bought me a sleeved polo for a discount. after she got off work, i walked with her around a bit, talking about various subjects, but unfortunately i didn't get her number. she even had her cell phone out, fiddling with it!!!!!! i felt so much regret afterwards. she said, "i'll see ya later" and there went my chance to cop the number....

regrets, regrets, regrets.....i hate it, but hopefully i'll come back stronger and more prepared next time. i think i did pretty well, being under the circumstances i was in. i had no intention of even meeting any chicks. now that i have my license i'll be going out and experiencing a lot more.

i'll probably stop by there the next time i go shopping, and i'll definately get her number. i know it'll work. i tried some kino, too. i've always been too much of a coward to try it too, lol....this is something i wouldn't ordinarily do. but i did it and it feels good. it's just another small step, but i'm steadily progressing. i hope i can be like this more often.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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the win-win situation about this is that this girl has a sister that is in my grade. last year i met her, we were aquaintences, but i never befriended her.

i learned that meeting a girl doesn't mean you've befriended them.

now when i see her sister around school, i have something to work with, and u better believe i'll step up to the occassion.
 
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