Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Then go get a relationship, Luke. fwiw, I am almost always in one.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well, if you are almost always in one, then you can not possibly relate with me because I never had a relationship before.Bible_Belt said:Then go get a relationship, Luke. fwiw, I am almost always in one.
You have a pretty twisted world perspective...not all women cheat. I think this forum tends to over-emphasize that misconception. Some people out there, men and women, actually love their significant other and have long, faithful, fulfilling relationships.DonGorgon said:LOL even if you marry a virgin eventually she will cheat on you and wouldnt you have to be a virgin too to make it equally safe until infidelity time comes around?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I've never heard of that... I've heard of penile papules which are just wierd occurances that sort of resemble little skin tags, that come right off with a pinch, alot of men get them.Bible_Belt said:molluscum contagiousum last year. It's like a painless little zit on your d!ck - not the end of the world.
I guarantee that it will be ultimately unfulfilling and disappointing.Luke Skywalker said:Going with a prostitute sounds easier.
You realize that you can and will contract hpv, herpes and several other std's even with using a condom?SunnyD said:Bible Belt, it's idiots like you that are spreading this sh!t around. Have you actually ever been tested? My guess is no.
Didn't you learn in 7th Grade that you can carry more than half of these listed STD's and spread them, without ever having symptoms yourself...?
What a stupid-ass attitude you have.
I've heard a lot of varying arguments on whether the virus (Herpes) can live on inanimate objects for a period of time, and be passed with skin to surface contact.The Inside Man said:You can't catch STDs through anything less than direct mucousal membrane or genital contact anyway, as told to me by my primary physician, so your last point is irrelevant.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Yeh but its not as valuable to focus on that 2% of the human population that is monogamous when assessing sociological trends...MooseGod said:You have a pretty twisted world perspective...not all women cheat. I think this forum tends to over-emphasize that misconception. Some people out there, men and women, actually love their significant other and have long, faithful, fulfilling relationships.
And just think she only mentioned the ones she considered "boyfriends" what about all the casual f's she had too.??My Name is Nobody said:This is what we get for living in the era of the sluts. I was talking to a 20 year old and she said she has had 9 boyfriends. So she probably cut the # in half as they usually do it's more like 18 boyfriends. That's a lot of shagging for a 20 year old.
And she still didn't know how to give a good BJ.
I find it kind of disturbing that a man 10 years older than me would say something so immature.Bible_Belt said:STDs are bad, but sex is better. I would much rather deal with a few minor STDs over the course of my lifetime than go without sex.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
drak_ool said:I m not advocating "no sex", but do wear that fvcking condom if you screw multiple women, the consequences are really not worth it
Exactly right.Drum&Bass said:THE MEDIA WILL HAVE YOU BELIEVE ALL THIS BS ABOUT STD'S !!!!!
They overhype these things and scare people into not having sex. Diseases have been around for ages, they are a part of life. Everyone probably has some disease living inside of them right now but doesn't get as much attention as certain diseases that are caused through sexual contact.
This is NOT an era of sluts and whores !!!! it is an era of human beings behaving as they always have !! the media knows this and they realize that if they can OVER HYPE STD's it will terrify people into having safe sex or no sex, which in turn is a form of subconscious population control.
It's not a bad plan, because it has everyone scared to death of easily treatable or curable diseases. It also keeps people using condoms for fear of these diseases which prevents an explosion in unwanted pregnancies (which is not a bad thing).
Now the media has struck a gold mine with the herpes scare !!! EVERYONE is scared of herpes, but no one realizes just how EASY it is to catch herpes.
and most rashes can pass for symptoms as herpes..and if diagnosed people will have to take meds for the rest of there life. Funny thing is, herpes tests are so flawed and riddled with false positives. Also why do herpes tests cost SOO MUCH money if it such a threatening disease ?? Doctors know that herpes is no big deal, but scare tactics will have people believe there lives are over and need to spend money on meds and counseling, in the meantime the doctor and pharmaceutical companies are laughing all the way to the bank.
This is how pharmaceutical companies work !
THEY play up the fears of unsuspecting masses and then milk everyone for money.
Ever notice why a majority of meds have to be taken for life ?? People are like batteries. They live to give money to corporations who use scare tactics.
If your naive enough to buy into the scare tactics of companies STOP HAVING SEX FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE..
and if you happen to catch something YOU CAN BECOME PART OF THE OVER PARANOID SHEEP THAT SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIVES SHELLING OUT MONEY TO PHARMACEUTICAL COMPANIES.
I think condoms are good way to go, but just realize that the std info provided through CDC and other sources are just scare tactics for stupid people who otherwise would be having unprotected sex.
Source?DonGorgon said:Yeh but its not as valuable to focus on that 2% of the human population that is monogamous when assessing sociological trends...
LOL... accurate negative data on most taboo subjects cannot be collected cause too many people lie about acts for which they are sure to be chastised and ostracized.MooseGod said:Source?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.