"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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at healthy weight but still flabby...

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Hey, about a year ago, i decided to make changes to my body after reading the "Zone Perfect" eating plan book.

I understood more about how carbs affect your body so I decided to cut drinking regular pop, eating candy, eating fast food, and balancing out my meals.

I lost about 55 lbs.

I whent from 215 to 155.

I've maintained that weight since then but i'm still flabby.

I'm about 5' 9", which means i'm at a healthy weight.

What would any of you guys suggest for getting more lean? I can see my abs sticking through but there is still flab there (as well as my chest and the rest of my body).

I've noticed my arms are WAY lean though. The veins stick out all the time now (something ive never experienced in my life before).

My guess is that i need to try a lot of cardio since i already have a good amount of muscle mass. I'm surprizingly stronger and have a bigger muscle structure than most of people my height and age.

thanks!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok, thanks a lot, i'll keep that in mind. Yea, i just ran for about an hour and a half. I got motivated :D .

Anyways, yea, i'll definitely stay strict on what i eat, and i'm gonna have a running routine from now on. My private road is all hilly so i get a lot of incline.

Thanks again!
 

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Hit the weights too and fill your skin out a bit. It's probably slightly stretchy from all the weight loss, and you're going to need to pack on a little bit of muscle to make your body look nice and solid.

Goodluck with that last bit of belly man :)
 
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Hmm, thats a thought,


I was also wondering, because of my weight, do you think I could have extra skin, contributing to the flabbier look as well ?
 

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It's a high possibility. I just think adding a bit of muscle to your structure makes you feel, look, and radiate health. It's a real good feeling to look at yourself and think you look excellent. Above average. Different.

It's not for everyone though. Have a think about how you see yourself in a perfect world. Hell, you lost that many lbs, you've already shown you have the dedication to make yourself look better. I guess you could make this a perfect basis for becoming everything you wanted to be. In body and mind.

:)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yea, I feel hella sore (its the day after that little run hehe). I'm gonna work on my muscles (mainly my upper body and abdomine) and get them stronger as well as doing more cardio workout, something i need to do in general.
 
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well i'm pretty muscular in the legs, i mostly wanna trim them a bit, i'll still work them out, for mantinince, i just want bigger arms and a stronger stomach
 

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Hmm, what I've heard around here is that you can't really isolate what you train...or something like that. But by stronger stomach do you mean...ABS? or er....I dunno..

I think you mean rock hard abs. In that case, do you probably want them to show and such...cuz you're refering to your flab. chill man. I have some flab too. Top ones a re showing..bottom part is flab. So just watch your diet, do a lot of cardio (not over like 45 min cuz then it starts burning muscle). At least that's what I've gathered from the DJs on this site. Er...might wanna post your diet.
 
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Well, i follow a basic "Zone perfect" diet plan. (if any of you know what that is). I maintain a 40-30-30 ratio for my carbs, fat and protein.

In the morning i usually have a protein shake and a low glycemic carb like bran cereal or something.

For lunch, i usually stick to something balanced, either a shake with a balance of sugar and what not (i follow the recepies in my booK).

For dinner, well, usually what my mom cooks hehe. She's on it too though, so everything is relatively balanced.

Like i said, i've stopped completely eating candy/cookies/cake whatever, pop, chips, all that. Its totally eliminated from my diet.

I try to keep fast food down to like once a week (some times you gotta live man).
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Run for 20 minutes when u first get up without eating anything. Your body will dip straight into your fat content to create energy for your body.

This will do more for you than 1 hour of your regular cardio!
 
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