"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Atticusbrd

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Whats up fellas this is my first post here been on here a few times but never got around to take the time and read alot that goes on here

Wanted to get a few tips on women at bars

So last night i went to a bar with a few of my buddies, Went there for the purpose of just gettig a few drinks and well just look at women

While on my second beer i was outside with a friend of mind just scoping out the scene women ect and randomly made Eye contact with a real cutie that i say would be my type ..Real cutie not out of my league

Look away and then look back and we make contact about 3 times
so i say to myself hmmm im ganna talk

so she comes real close to me and i asked her for a cigg. she gives me a hit of her cigg and we randonly start talking about random **** she leaves after a few minutes dissapears for a while

Later on we meet up again and same thing goes on eye contact after eye contact

I go up to talk to her again she talks but had "the ***** shield" on her

Dont know what i did wrong but it was the first time trying to meet and pick up at a bar (since im not much of a bar person it was the first time)

any tips?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I honestly can't think what you did wrong here, but if she is putting up her ***** shields, the best thing to do is walk away and not waste your time Atticusbrd, find a girl that you get a good connection with and get her number, keep on doing what you are doing, approaches are hard, but the more you do it, the better you will be :D
 

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All the ***** shield is really for is to weed out the droves of afc's hitting on her every night. Women get bored with all the "average guys" who waste their time. So show her that you're different. Act like a man and treat her like she's your equal or like the chubby girl with acne and braces that liked you in high school and not some goddess and you'll go far in this world.
 

Atticusbrd

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ill be on the look out again and keep these tips in mind

thanks fellas

ill probably hit up the bar again this week
 
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