Mr. Unique
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Do you know any one who has it? How do they act?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don't see it as a bad thing. It is what it is, unfortunately it picked you as a host but you can always look for the positive. That should be your focus brother.JackBauer24 said:I was diagnosed with Aspergers last year.
who doesnt love hands?KarmaSutra said:The Jerry Espensen character on Boston Legal started off as a goofball but has evolved into a positive role model. Would be good for you to check out season 2 of Boston Legal just for him (and it's the second best show on tv behind Lost).
All the best to you youngblood.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You seem to be a bit intolerant and spiteful of this young brother. Does it hit too close to home? There isn't any need to post this kind of thing in here. None at all. This brother wants some help and some guidance and you sully this thread, and your name, with this? If you're pissed about it then DO something about it. Don't bring someone down merely to assuage your own angst.Potbelly said:Is this really a disease? Hell, I can think of dozens of people around me that are at least like this sometime. I probably have this disease.
But guess what, I don't give a damn because psychology is bullsh1t. Took them 50 years to approve of this as a disease and pin it in the same category as autism. fools....stop looking for problems where there is none. you're not that important to have a fvcking syndrome that basically means you get depressed sometimes and enjoy some alone time.
I agree so whole heartedly. This whole Asperger's thing didn't come out until 1983 or so. And it is especially true that normal male behavior has stricter standards than for females. Women are free to be either as introverted or eccentric as they want to be without penalty. Men are simply not! Actually, the truth is that no matter how abnormal a female's behavior is, they will spindoctor it into something positive such as being "unique" or "or "colorful" or "mysterious" or they'll say something like "she has spirit!". It never occurs to anyone that a lot of women deliberately affect eccentricities to try to appear more interesting than they actually are! A lot of men do get accused of being contrived, pretentious and sporting affectations however.ketostix said:I'm sure there are people who are far from the "norm" and have asperger's and/or aultism. But I also think there's a certain percentage of people particularly males who are naturally and normally introverted and more logic based. They're basically normal in very way, they're just some percentage of the pop. maybe a little less than 25% who are introverted and different socially and probably gifted in other areas.
There's probably an almost equal or maybe slightly less number of women the same way. The difference is in the difference in how men if they don't appear to be from a cookie cutter are not tolerated in this society in general and how they're labeled as "asperger's", "aultistic" or "creepy" or who knows what just for having a natural and normal unique personality type. Whereas if a female is introverted, no one thinks anything is wrong with it at all. She's consider just "shy and feminine" or maybe stuck up, but never abnormal. Because let's face it, no matter how truely abnormal a female's behavior is it's generally accepted if not encouraged. I truley believe these diagnosis of primarily males in many cases are reflection and example of sexism and intolerance.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Indeed, I've made huge research on the subject because the controversy interested me. Asperger's is pure bull5hit in 90-95% percent of the cases.Yotsuya-san said:I agree so whole heartedly. This whole Asperger's thing didn't come out until 1983 or so. And it is especially true that normal male behavior has stricter standards than for females. Women are free to be either as introverted or eccentric as they want to be without penalty. Men are simply not! Actually, the truth is that no matter how abnormal a female's behavior is, they will spindoctor it into something positive such as being "unique" or "or "colorful" or "mysterious" or they'll say something like "she has spirit!". It never occurs to anyone that a lot of women deliberately affect eccentricities to try to appear more interesting than they actually are! A lot of men do get accused of being contrived, pretentious and sporting affectations however.
Just goes to show that psychology is conformist bull**** most of the time.
I know some symptoms of Aspergers Syndrome, like an inability to pick up on social cues, such as reading others body language. Their own speech may be flat and difficult to comprehend because of a shortage of pitch or tone, uneasiness with any changes in routines. May either stare at others, or evade eye contact. They might not have compassion and many more.Mr. Unique said:Do you know any one who has it? How do they act?
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.