Mr. Unique
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Do you know any one who has it? How do they act?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Don't see it as a bad thing. It is what it is, unfortunately it picked you as a host but you can always look for the positive. That should be your focus brother.JackBauer24 said:I was diagnosed with Aspergers last year.
who doesnt love hands?KarmaSutra said:The Jerry Espensen character on Boston Legal started off as a goofball but has evolved into a positive role model. Would be good for you to check out season 2 of Boston Legal just for him (and it's the second best show on tv behind Lost).
All the best to you youngblood.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You seem to be a bit intolerant and spiteful of this young brother. Does it hit too close to home? There isn't any need to post this kind of thing in here. None at all. This brother wants some help and some guidance and you sully this thread, and your name, with this? If you're pissed about it then DO something about it. Don't bring someone down merely to assuage your own angst.Potbelly said:Is this really a disease? Hell, I can think of dozens of people around me that are at least like this sometime. I probably have this disease.
But guess what, I don't give a damn because psychology is bullsh1t. Took them 50 years to approve of this as a disease and pin it in the same category as autism. fools....stop looking for problems where there is none. you're not that important to have a fvcking syndrome that basically means you get depressed sometimes and enjoy some alone time.
I agree so whole heartedly. This whole Asperger's thing didn't come out until 1983 or so. And it is especially true that normal male behavior has stricter standards than for females. Women are free to be either as introverted or eccentric as they want to be without penalty. Men are simply not! Actually, the truth is that no matter how abnormal a female's behavior is, they will spindoctor it into something positive such as being "unique" or "or "colorful" or "mysterious" or they'll say something like "she has spirit!". It never occurs to anyone that a lot of women deliberately affect eccentricities to try to appear more interesting than they actually are! A lot of men do get accused of being contrived, pretentious and sporting affectations however.ketostix said:I'm sure there are people who are far from the "norm" and have asperger's and/or aultism. But I also think there's a certain percentage of people particularly males who are naturally and normally introverted and more logic based. They're basically normal in very way, they're just some percentage of the pop. maybe a little less than 25% who are introverted and different socially and probably gifted in other areas.
There's probably an almost equal or maybe slightly less number of women the same way. The difference is in the difference in how men if they don't appear to be from a cookie cutter are not tolerated in this society in general and how they're labeled as "asperger's", "aultistic" or "creepy" or who knows what just for having a natural and normal unique personality type. Whereas if a female is introverted, no one thinks anything is wrong with it at all. She's consider just "shy and feminine" or maybe stuck up, but never abnormal. Because let's face it, no matter how truely abnormal a female's behavior is it's generally accepted if not encouraged. I truley believe these diagnosis of primarily males in many cases are reflection and example of sexism and intolerance.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Indeed, I've made huge research on the subject because the controversy interested me. Asperger's is pure bull5hit in 90-95% percent of the cases.Yotsuya-san said:I agree so whole heartedly. This whole Asperger's thing didn't come out until 1983 or so. And it is especially true that normal male behavior has stricter standards than for females. Women are free to be either as introverted or eccentric as they want to be without penalty. Men are simply not! Actually, the truth is that no matter how abnormal a female's behavior is, they will spindoctor it into something positive such as being "unique" or "or "colorful" or "mysterious" or they'll say something like "she has spirit!". It never occurs to anyone that a lot of women deliberately affect eccentricities to try to appear more interesting than they actually are! A lot of men do get accused of being contrived, pretentious and sporting affectations however.
Just goes to show that psychology is conformist bull**** most of the time.
I know some symptoms of Aspergers Syndrome, like an inability to pick up on social cues, such as reading others body language. Their own speech may be flat and difficult to comprehend because of a shortage of pitch or tone, uneasiness with any changes in routines. May either stare at others, or evade eye contact. They might not have compassion and many more.Mr. Unique said:Do you know any one who has it? How do they act?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.