"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Askmen.com article on dating hot women

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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None of those are issues to me. Maybe the ego one, but I like that too. They should call the list 'problems you might face dating hot women (if you don't feel you deserve them).
 

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backbreaker said:
that's the worst article on earth
agreed... is it just me, or does it seem like men's health, men's fitness, and some others are written by women and metros?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Nighthawk said:
... They should call the list 'problems you might face dating hot women (if you don't feel you deserve them).
Agreed.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Like I said, I don't think he is talking about your typical attractive/cute/hot woman, but your stunningly beautiful women (e.g. Natalie Portman, Jess Simpson) look alike. The cream of the cream, the women that have "triple take" faces.

While this article might come across as self-limiting, I think it is reality. Face it, some dudes just don't give a flying fukk and will hit on a girl right in front of you or be an a-hole to you. I think this is more likely to happen if you are with a 9 of 10.
 

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While this article might come across as self-limiting, I think it is reality. Face it, some dudes just don't give a flying fukk and will hit on a girl right in front of you or be an a-hole to you. I think this is more likely to happen if you are with a 9 of 10.
True but if she's really into you who cares? (Quality) Women are very capable of telling guys that they aren't interested. Besides, if another guy thinks your girl is hot, doesn't it attest to your choice of women?

A healthy ego should keep you from getting jealous or disrespected, especially if you carry yourself in such a way authentically. The interesting thing is that if you do, other guys tend to become jealous and bitter. Better them than you because uncontrolled jealousy and bitterness will drive women away.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Askmen used to be a good site, now it's just a ****hole with most of the articles having backing from some advertiser.
 

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Who writes this crap?

"Prepare to fight other men"
"You'll become insecure"

uhuh...
 

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lol I love this one:

"no-one will notice you in her presence"

Oh, no! my fragile self esteem! I will no longer be the belle of the ball.

Seems like the guy who wrote that article is a virgin...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Serialized3 said:
Seems like the guy who wrote that article is a virgin...
seems like the author had a traumatic experience based on his own insecurities and wrote an article generalizing both beautiful women and the men who date them. I'll generalize further a bit by saying that it seems that the target of this article are guys who want to date any hot woman regardless of her personality.

I agree with the points that hot girls get attention, but the rest were all security issues that deal with the guy. Some guys aren't ready to date very beautiful women. There is a balance between jealousy and obsessiveness that guys can cross, with beautiful women it becomes that much more difficult. It comes back to the motives. If you are dating her because you want to and have a healthy relationship (or at least give her as much freedom as you expect) than what good does jealousy serve? The second you start to worry or become jealous of attention is the second you can pin point that relationship starting to die. That said you find the crazy hot chick and the jealous d-bag and they might live together in their own drama for the rest of their lives loving it.

I qualify on attitude mainly, looks second. I wont go for a girl who I dont find attractive, but I wont date an attractive girl with a terrible attitude. I've dated a few headturners (am currently) but only will if they have a personality to match their looks. It doesn't take very long to separate the worthy from the pointless.

Do you think there are more chicks in the 18-35 range who are ugly or average OR cute or hot? Cute being the 7's and 8's, hot being 9's and 10's
definitely vote for the majority being ugly or average. There is a reason why the word average means what it means (not ugly not cute). I think that most everything outside of the average category tends to fall into personal preference categories. One mans trash is another mans treasure (or soap) type of system. My HB8 might be your HB6 and vice versa.
 
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