Asking women whether they think they're beautiful

[lizardking82]

And it is weird cause even some of the most ****able ones say "nah, common, not so much" LOL

 

[bigneil]

Don't ask them if they feel beautiful, make them feel beautiful.

Example 1: The youngest girl I ever bedded just turned 20. I met her one year ago and when she told me her birthday I said "Wow, beautiful women keep getting younger and younger". I didn't realize it at the time but because I said it in a matter of fact way, that made her feel special. I later found out that was what made her fall for me.

Example 2: The first time I actually spoke to my last girlfriend (after we flirted the first 2 times) I said "You're one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen, you should do modeling". That came to pass. In the process I helped her discover her own beauty and more importantly what made her beautiful. That made me one of the pillars of her self esteem.

However, if some random guy walks up and says "You're beautiful" it doesn't have the same effect. It should truly come naturally.

 

[wifehunter]

She's fishing for compliments...she knows, she gets stares...do NOT play her game. Greedy.

 

[RangerMIke]

All women have a love hate relationship with their bodies and looks. If you can convince a women that you really believe she is beautiful, and you are not just feeding her a line to get into her pants, you will own her. Never EVER say ANYTHING critical about how a women looks. You want to score points with a woman compliment her on some little thing. REMEMBER what she wears... BURN IT into your memory. Women take A LOT of time picking out things to wear and how they look. If you notice the little things, you will always come out on top, because at some level she will be convinced that what she is doing is getting you, and in her mind she will envision she is doing it for you and become more invested.

I went out with a woman a year ago... we just didn't click, but because I ALWAYS pay attention to details with women, a few months later I ran into her in an elevator and noticed that she had on the same ear rings she worn on our date. I complemented her on them and said, "I like those ear rings, but I think they went MUCH better with the dress you had on when we had dinner." My God, she would not leave until I agreed to meet her again... we are still casually dating.

After learning to read female body language, the next best skill a man can have is PAYING ATTENTION and noticing the little things about the appearance of women... if you are in an exclusive relationship with a chick (God only knows why one might do this.. but to each his own) the best long term investment you can make is to BURN INTO YOUR MEMORY how a chicks hair looks.... I know, it's stupid... but chicks spend a freaking sh!t load of time on their hair. Not only do they spend a lot of money on coloring, styling, and general care, but they also do weekly 'blow-outs', they are always making little changes.... NOTICE WHEN THIS HAPPENS. Trust me on this, you can not lose. just look at her hair just before you leave her, and the next time notice ANY change... if you like the change compliment her on it. Don't freaking lie to her... because thrust me she will know... but if you like the change... tell her, if you don;t then just notice there was a change, and say "it looks okay, but I really liked when you had your hair like ______". Best investment for long term success.

Notice when her shoes match her bag.... notice when her nails match her dress. Notice her earrings complement the rest of the stuff she is wearing. Trust me... PAY ATTENTION and notice things and you will always make a VERY good impression.

 

[wifehunter]

Just don't fall into the trap of feeding their egos, make them work for it.

 

[bigneil]

After learning to read female body language, the next best skill a man can have is PAYING ATTENTION and noticing the little things about the appearance of women... if you are in an exclusive relationship with a chick (God only knows why one might do this.. but to each his own) the best long term investment you can make is to BURN INTO YOUR MEMORY how a chicks hair looks.... I know, it's stupid... but chicks spend a freaking sh!t load of time on their hair. Not only do they spend a lot of money on coloring, styling, and general care, but they also do weekly 'blow-outs', they are always making little changes.... NOTICE WHEN THIS HAPPENS. Trust me on this, you can not lose. just look at her hair just before you leave her, and the next time notice ANY change... if you like the change compliment her on it. Don't freaking lie to her... because thrust me she will know... but if you like the change... tell her, if you don;t then just notice there was a change, and say "it looks okay, but I really liked when you had your hair like ______". Best investment for long term success.

Notice when her shoes match her bag.... notice when her nails match her dress. Notice her earrings complement the rest of the stuff she is wearing. Trust me... PAY ATTENTION and notice things and you will always make a VERY good impression.

This is why the best thing I ever did was become a photographer. Planning photo shoots (some take months of planning to get the outfits, etc) not only allows you to notice her dress, makeup and accessories - but to direct them. To control every variable. It's extremely erotic and they live out fantasies in the process.

My new pickup line with strippers when they are on stage "As perfect as you look, I want to pay you to put clothes ON".

 

[zekko]

This is a bit off topic, but I was thinking about it so I'll put it here.

You know how some advise not to give girls compliments, especially if they are unearned, or especially if they are generic compiments like "You're pretty" or "You're beautiful"? The argument goes that this is unimaginative, she hears it all time, and isn't specific to her.

I was thinking most men would never think it was lame for a girl to say "You're handsome", they would like to hear it. But girls I think, they take beauty for granted up to a point. Kind of like "Of course I'm pretty, I'm a girl. What other kind of line have you got?". So I'm not sure girls value beauty like men do, since it tends to come easily to them (even though it's fleeting).

 

[bigneil]

This is a bit off topic, but I was thinking about it so I'll put it here.

You know how some advise not to give girls compliments, especially if they are unearned, or especially if they are generic compiments like "You're pretty" or "You're beautiful"? The argument goes that this is unimaginative, she hears it all time, and isn't specific to her.

I was thinking most men would never think it was lame for a girl to say "You're handsome", they would like to hear it. But girls I think, they take beauty for granted up to a point. Kind of like "Of course I'm pretty, I'm a girl. What other kind of line have you got?". So I'm not sure girls value beauty like men do, since it tends to come easily to them (even though it's fleeting).

We should indeed wait until the moment they are attracted to us before we tell them they are beautiful.

In any event, be bold and take risks. My last girl said she originally fell for me during that moment in between when I randomly asked her (and another girl) for a (three way) kiss and when she kissed (us).

 

[wifehunter]

This is a bit off topic, but I was thinking about it so I'll put it here.

You know how some advise not to give girls compliments, especially if they are unearned, or especially if they are generic compiments like "You're pretty" or "You're beautiful"? The argument goes that this is unimaginative, she hears it all time, and isn't specific to her.

I was thinking most men would never think it was lame for a girl to say "You're handsome", they would like to hear it. But girls I think, they take beauty for granted up to a point. Kind of like "Of course I'm pretty, I'm a girl. What other kind of line have you got?". So I'm not sure girls value beauty like men do, since it tends to come easily to them (even though it's fleeting).

"Wow that water....it's sooo wet!!!"

 

[Serenity]

It's because they don't want to come off as narcissistic.

 

[zekko]

We should indeed wait until the moment they are attracted to us before we tell them they are beautiful.

On the other hand, you see a lot of these infield cold approach videos on the street. And they often start out with something like "Wow, you're beautiful, so I had to come meet you". I think a lot of those guys come off like creepers though.

 

[bigneil]

On the other hand, you see a lot of these infield cold approach videos on the street. And they often start out with something like "Wow, you're beautiful, so I had to come meet you". I think a lot of those guys come off like creepers though.

As a general rule, never open with a compliment. However, I can't resist "I love your braids". This subliminally says "I love you".

Perhaps not coincidentally, the first conversation with the love of my life: "When was your birthday? You were born on a Thursday. I know this sounds like a line, but I was conceived the day you were born. Your birthday is my parent's wedding anniversary. My mom married as a virgin and became pregnant with me during their honeymoon. I never challenged her on that, though I did wonder what time she got home the night before the wedding..."

I then walked out of the club and she went looking for me for 3 weeks. The moment she found me, we were in love. Then I realized we had met 9 months earlier when she was a waitress, and when we shook hands that day we held hands for the longest time. Could all those keywords (and the long handshake) I used have subliminally programmed her? Birthday, wedding, virgin, pregnant, born, parents, honeymoon... it all happened without my realizing it.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

As a general rule, never open with a compliment. However, I can't resist "I love your braids". This subliminally says "I love you".

Perhaps not coincidentally, the first conversation with the love of my life: "When was your birthday? You were born on a Thursday. I know this sounds like a line, but I was conceived the day you were born. Your birthday is my parent's wedding anniversary. My mom married as a virgin and became pregnant with me during their honeymoon. I never challenged her on that, though I did wonder what time she got home the night before the wedding..."

I then walked out of the club and she went looking for me for 3 weeks. The moment she found me, we were in love. Then I realized we had met 9 months earlier when she was a waitress, and when we shook hands that day we held hands for the longest time. Could all those keywords (and the long handshake) I used have subliminally programmed her? Birthday, wedding, virgin, pregnant, born, parents, honeymoon... it all happened without my realizing it.

HAHAHA now he's a hypnotist.

The love of his life who left him while ****ing other guys.

 

[Von]

If they say "no", you run away

 

[nismo-4]

This is a bit off topic, but I was thinking about it so I'll put it here.

You know how some advise not to give girls compliments, especially if they are unearned, or especially if they are generic compiments like "You're pretty" or "You're beautiful"? The argument goes that this is unimaginative, she hears it all time, and isn't specific to her.

I was thinking most men would never think it was lame for a girl to say "You're handsome", they would like to hear it. But girls I think, they take beauty for granted up to a point. Kind of like "Of course I'm pretty, I'm a girl. What other kind of line have you got?". So I'm not sure girls value beauty like men do, since it tends to come easily to them (even though it's fleeting).

The only problem.

Women get complimented, their ego gets fed and they lap up the attention.

Men get complimemted, it's useless unless we're dating or more.

 

[zekko]

Men get complimemted, it's useless unless we're dating or more.

We can at least take a compliment. Men don't usually think "Wow, how lame is this chick for saying I'm handsome?".

On the pro-compliment side: If you compliment her, and she gets an ego boost, she might associate that good feeling with you.

On the con side: She gets her ego boosted and likes it, but that doesn't do anything to make her attracted to you. She might even think "Hey, this guy just told me how beautiful I am, I can do better".

Of course, if you're just giving value, it doesn't matter what her response is. You're just like a ray of sunshine.

 

[Masculinity]

And it is weird cause even some of the most ****able ones say "nah, common, not so much" LOL

I think the big picture idea is good. I would disguise the questionnaire as a project on human perception and modify the original question to "do you think you're attractive? What are some things you like about yourself and some things you don't? What would you rate yourself on a scale from 1-10? What do you have going for yourself that is not physically related or something you do? "
The more attractive the woman, the more insecure she tends to be because she believes to be closer to "perfection." You'd be surprised at how many hot babes walking around like they're happy will actually tell you.

 

[wifehunter]

On the other hand, you see a lot of these infield cold approach videos on the street. And they often start out with something like "Wow, you're beautiful, so I had to come meet you". I think a lot of those guys come off like creepers though.

I agree... I wouldn't go around handing out compiments at clubs. The grocery store, has its own flow. I can get away with compliment openers, because I'm not trying to get laid. The 'I'm not trying to get laid' frame, is a lot more laid back. If you are truly leaving sex as a low priority, your frame will reflect that. But, it's a delicate and subtle balance, to not end up in the FZ.

The evironment, and situationtional awareness, are really important. There are way too many, no class, creeps.

 

[BeExcellent]

I'm a big believer in the ray of sunshine approach noted by @zekko.

For one thing you are simply adding value, which creates a positive vibe (unless someone is utterly an ass, which they will reveal in short order).

It is also outcome independent because you don't have an agenda. Coming from a genuine ray of sunshine place you can say most anything and it will be well received.

You can learn a fair amount about a woman by observing how she takes a compliment. The best response is gracious and appreciative that you noticed her or something about her. A blush or smile is also positive. Some girls will respond with sh1tty/funny, some will be jerks, and many will show insecurity or perhaps vulnerability (can be tough to tell which is which). Assume insecurity as that is more common.

I compliment people all the time if I see something that merits recognition. Nothing wrong with putting positive energy into the world.