"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Asking to Prom?

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After thinking about it, I wish I made her make her decision on the spot and to tell her I am not some backup plan if her first does not fall through. Do you think it would be a good idea if I went up to her this week and to tell her to make her decision directly and not leave it up in the air?? I think it would make me look like I am in control and don't play her little games of being a backup plan which I don't want to be. And if I strike out, I can always try to find another girl...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thing is, she told me "I will go with you, BUT I don't know what (her ex-bf) is doing" In my mind I was thinking maybe he asked her already? But, she looked right at me when she said it, and I believed her. Everything you hear and read is that women will make excuses for you to make the "rejection" seem better for you. To me, it seems like maybe she will really think about it and give me a fair chance in maybe I will be her pick. Did she do a good job selling to me that I had a chance or do you think she is considering her options between me and her ex who is now her friend??
 
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Well guys, today we talked about the prom and she has decided to go with me. I told her I would think about it for the day, then get back to her. I told her I'd go with her and inside myself, I knew she was going to let me know. Honestly though, I always thought when a girl makes an excuse it usually is a no, but I guess maybe I got lucky. So I am goin to go with her and we are ridin in the same limo. Any pre-planning advice to make the next two months before the prom go smoothly?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I asked this girl to prom. She is good looking, but she is so awkward around me! I liked her for a while, but now just like its so awkward seeing her in school and stuff. what's a good way to ease tension?

it's just uncomfortable. i dont really wanna go with her now
 

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keep flirting, go out on dates/double dates

make sure you get your tux rented a few weeks ahead, or else it's going to cost extra.

also remember to get your corsage/boutoneire watever, 2-3 weeks earlier, or else it will cost you, or you might not even get it.

make sure all arrangements are in place.
 
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Would I get her flowers because I think we are going as friends even though I never told her that? I would rather go as a couple somehow, but anyway she can go with me is fine. The limo ride should be fun and I am gonna also have to pay for that. I also wanted to pimp cain, haha, and some shades to make me look pimpin! I really hope all goes well and nothin goes wrong...:p
 

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I see it as prom is your last resort thing the whole point of it is if you havn't gotten laid by then thats the night you should lose it and no one after prom should still be a virgin even the fat/ugly kids. The whole point is to spend enough money on crap that the chick will wanna have sex with you. So unless you are still a virgin just don't go to prom.
 
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Well I am still going with the girl I tried so hard to get and finally at least got her to go with me. Took a while, but it finally happenened and I want to have a lot of fun. I don't look at it like that--if you are a virgin, you must lose it that night. I doubt it will be like that at mine, but I think you would know more than me so I will respect and evaluate your opinion.

I just want things to go well before it finally comes and I am looking forwards to May because I don't have to worry about finding a date, so its all good. Can anyone gimme a little story about how yours went and what was good/bad about it?

Thanks a lot for all of your help and I appreciate all the replies from all.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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