"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Hitman10000 said:
Nah, don't ask. Just go for it.
:yes: Guys need to learn how to read a woman to be able to tell if she wants to or not without asking. However David Deangelo did have a good c/f line to solicit a response. Anyone care to guess what it is? :whistle:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
:yes: Guys need to learn how to read a woman to be able to tell if she wants to or not without asking. :whistle:

I think that goes for any kino in general. For example, I was giving this one girl a back rub or whatever, and thought she liked it, but later found out that I was just making her uncomfortable and she didn't tell me to stop cuz she was being nice. I also had a friend tell me that i've been making 2 or 3 other girls uncomfortable, and although he wouldnt tell me who it was or what i did, I could only imagine that it was kino related since i've been experimenting with it and trying to perfect my use of it, and I have some ideas who it might have been.

Needless to say I was greatly discouraged at this turn of events.

I can imagine that it was my lack of ability of being able to read body language, and my incorrect use of kino, that attributed to this.

*sigh*

sometimes I just feel like isolating myself socially and not coming out of my hole again when i make blunders like this. I know I have to continue to resist my natural tendency to avoid this kind of pain and keep going out there till i get it, but it still sucks when I find that reality isn't what I think it is. :(
 

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Girls want a leader, a strong guy who doesnt ask but just does it. Saying this though make sure the signs are right and then just kiss her, dont ask. When I first started proper dating when I was 14 I always asked girls can I kiss you and one day a girl said to me you know your not supposed to ask you should just do it. Girls love spontaneous actions rather than being predictable and boring.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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