"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Asking to kiss her

Francisco d'Anconia

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Hitman10000 said:
Nah, don't ask. Just go for it.
:yes: Guys need to learn how to read a woman to be able to tell if she wants to or not without asking. However David Deangelo did have a good c/f line to solicit a response. Anyone care to guess what it is? :whistle:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
:yes: Guys need to learn how to read a woman to be able to tell if she wants to or not without asking. :whistle:

I think that goes for any kino in general. For example, I was giving this one girl a back rub or whatever, and thought she liked it, but later found out that I was just making her uncomfortable and she didn't tell me to stop cuz she was being nice. I also had a friend tell me that i've been making 2 or 3 other girls uncomfortable, and although he wouldnt tell me who it was or what i did, I could only imagine that it was kino related since i've been experimenting with it and trying to perfect my use of it, and I have some ideas who it might have been.

Needless to say I was greatly discouraged at this turn of events.

I can imagine that it was my lack of ability of being able to read body language, and my incorrect use of kino, that attributed to this.

*sigh*

sometimes I just feel like isolating myself socially and not coming out of my hole again when i make blunders like this. I know I have to continue to resist my natural tendency to avoid this kind of pain and keep going out there till i get it, but it still sucks when I find that reality isn't what I think it is. :(
 

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Girls want a leader, a strong guy who doesnt ask but just does it. Saying this though make sure the signs are right and then just kiss her, dont ask. When I first started proper dating when I was 14 I always asked girls can I kiss you and one day a girl said to me you know your not supposed to ask you should just do it. Girls love spontaneous actions rather than being predictable and boring.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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