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Asking out a girl I sort of know

enDo

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Theres this cute girl I sort of know from seeing at parties (im a college student), ive talked to her a few times, enough to say hi when we walk past each other on campus.

I think it would be strange and abrupt if I outright asked her out one day being as I havent talked to her in a few weeks, so I wanted to stop her and get lunch or dinner (in dining hall) first.

Should I just go for the date?

Shes a smiley and giggly girl anyways so looking for IOIs are kind of tough.

I'm thinking of how to steer a conversation next time i bump into her towards Indian food so that I can be like "hey we should go get indian! ive been craving some recently". would that be abrupt for me to ask that even though im not really friends with her, just loose acquaintances? would she even percieve it as a date?
 

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enDo said:
I'm thinking of how to steer a conversation next time i bump into her towards Indian food so that I can be like "hey we should go get indian! ive been craving some recently". would that be abrupt for me to ask that even though im not really friends with her, just loose acquaintances? would she even percieve it as a date?
Abrupt perhaps, but certainly not "too" abrupt. If anything, like you said, it might be so casual as to put you in too much of a friendly mode when you go out. Sounds like a fine idea though. Maybe somebody else will have a better one.
 

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yep just talk for a few minutes, then say you have to go and say well we should go get something to eat sometime. good luck man.
 

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i added her to my myspace and sent her a msg and she logged on today but didnt respond or add me :noes:

that stupid lil thing gave me doubts
 

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I would try to build as much rapport with her since you are in a college situation. Find some commonalities, that's how chicks click with guys or if you wave a couple $100 bills. But there's a feeling inside me, that you have already failed, something inside of me that thinks that you should've asked for her number right away on the first 1-2 meetings and then proceeding on courtship ritual.

Forget asking "Hey we should get X" get one thing down one at a time. Build rapport - not through phone or email but in person, let one thing lead to another. A girl who is interested will give you THAT time in person to talk to you.
 

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